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I have to admit that I'd be very cautious about a GQ-type guy showing interest in me unless he was someone I'd grown to know over time.


When I was in my 30s, I had a bad experience with that - I was dating a drop-dead-gorgeous man, someone I met as the friend-of-a-friend. I was puzzled as to why he'd be drawn to me because I'm very average in the looks department, but figured that my wit and charm is what kept him coming back We'd been seeing each other for several months and I was head-over-heels about him...until the day he asked me to lunch and told me that he really cared for me...wait for it...because I was plain. He went on to tell me about his beautiful ex-gf who had cheated on him and because of this experience, he'd made a conscious choice to only date less attractive women. And that's where I came in!


I remember to this day that feeling of the food turning tasteless in my mouth as he told me this, and how I couldn't end that lunch quickly enough! Talk about being crushed...it took me awhile to heal that wound.


- November 15th, 2008, 09:28 am
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yeoww wrote :

I have to admit that I'd be very cautious about a GQ-type guy showing interest in me unless he was someone I'd grown to know over time.


When I was in my 30s, I had a bad experience with that - I was dating a drop-dead-gorgeous man, someone I met as the friend-of-a-friend. I was puzzled as to why he'd be drawn to me because I'm very average in the looks department, but figured that my wit and charm is what kept him coming back We'd been seeing each other for several months and I was head-over-heels about him...until the day he asked me to lunch and told me that he really cared for me...wait for it...because I was plain. He went on to tell me about his beautiful ex-gf who had cheated on him and because of this experience, he'd made a conscious choice to only date less attractive women. And that's where I came in!


I remember to this day that feeling of the food turning tasteless in my mouth as he told me this, and how I couldn't end that lunch quickly enough! Talk about being crushed...it took me awhile to heal that wound.

There are people who are attracted to you. Intelligent looking (glasses) women turn me on! I'm not coming on to you, I'm just saying, there are people who will truly think that you are attractive. I have also enjoyed your posts so I/we know how witty and intelligent your are...
- November 15th, 2008, 09:57 am
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I was tall, dark, and handsome, butI was attracting all the wrong women. So now when I go to the barber I ask for the "male pattern bald" cut. It works like a charm...
- November 15th, 2008, 09:59 am
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I don't close out any matches just because she is 'too' good looking (ok maybe just one, but it was also other things in her profile that made think we wouldn't have been compatible).


The nice thing about this board is that I can get to know other members, who happen to be intimidatingly attractive. The difference is that I get to know them a bit better through their posts rather than by reading their profiles.


Still gonna be nervous and throw up in my mouth a little when we meet in person though, but not as intimidated.


- November 15th, 2008, 11:12 am
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my5cents, wrote :


I know, this sounds like a stupid topic, but I truly inquire in earnest. Do any of you run into matches that you may feel are too good looking for you?


i only have a problem with this when that person has a fixation with reminding everyone how good looking they are. thats a big turn off since its sounds like they have nothing elseto offer the other person but their looks. they appear to be full of themselves and it also tends to sound like that they are too good for most people out there. i see this on 'advice' once too often too and get turned off as well.


"looks" comes and goes with time but personality/character lasts forever (or much longer).


as the quote in my profile says:


"that which is striking and beautiful is not always good, but that which is good is always beautiful"
- November 15th, 2008, 11:40 am
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Dear My5cent,


I think it is perfectly normal for you to feel the way you do. I believe, as individuals, we all consciously or subconsciouslytry to find someone who would compliment our own appearance, intelligence, etc. However, I also believe that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder".Sometimesa personmayappear to be "gorgeous" to you, he maynot toothers, or vice versa.


When I wasyounger, I once dated a guy who looked like "Brandon Lee" (Bruce Lee's son) and who I thoughtwas "drop dead gorgeous". Whenever we went out, I always felt that all eyes wereon him instead of me, and I was very intimidated. I actually felt that people must be thinking "what is this gorgeous looking man doing with thisgirl?" However, as I grew older, my confidencealso grew stronger. I now feelthat I can take on anygorgeous man who wants to ask me out, even though I am much older now and probably not looking any better.Hey, I figure if he wants me, I must not be too bad. So, it all has to do with how confident you are with yourself in terms of how comfortable you would feel when datinga so-called "drop dead gorgeous" man.


This is my .02 cents.


- November 15th, 2008, 11:50 am
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The best thing that ever happened to me in my relationships was being married to an amazingly beautiful woman. As it turned out, she wasn't as good on the inside as she was on outside.


Today, I might still be intimidated to ask out a strikingly beautiful woman, but it would be because I'd assume she was taken, not because she was out of my league. I believe I bring a lot to the table myself. I laugh when women say they couldn't date a man more attractive than she, but I guess that's life.
- November 15th, 2008, 11:51 am
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DennisWisconsin wrote :


yeoww wrote :


I have to admit that I'd be very cautious about a GQ-type guy showing interest in me unless he was someone I'd grown to know over time.


When I was in my 30s, I had a bad experience with that - I was dating a drop-dead-gorgeous man, someone I met as the friend-of-a-friend. I was puzzled as to why he'd be drawn to me because I'm very average in the looks department, but figured that my wit and charm is what kept him coming back We'd been seeing each other for several months and I was head-over-heels about him...until the day he asked me to lunch and told me that he really cared for me...wait for it...because I was plain. He went on to tell me about his beautiful ex-gf who had cheated on him and because of this experience, he'd made a conscious choice to only date less attractive women. And that's where I came in!


I remember to this day that feeling of the food turning tasteless in my mouth as he told me this, and how I couldn't end that lunch quickly enough! Talk about being crushed...it took me awhile to heal that wound.





There are people who are attracted to you. Intelligent looking (glasses) women turn me on! I'm not coming on to you, I'm just saying, there are people who will truly think that you are attractive. I have also enjoyed your posts so I/we know how witty and intelligent your are...


thank you for the compliments! You're dern cute yourself and I'm sure have no trouble in the gf department, btw... Hopefully as we go along in life we gain some insight into what's most important. My first bf at 17 was a Mick Jagger knock-off and nothing my parents could say to me convinced me that the other guy who liked me (average-looking but funny, smart and ended up being a great success locally) was the right choice. Relationships truly are a"learrn-as-you-go" experience, aren't they?





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Monica1 wrote :
Let me tell you though, being judged is being judged, no matter what the initial "reason" one may think they have.
Wise words!
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I'm...too sexy for this board, too sexy for this board...
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