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I think the line, "Men are visual creatures" is a cop out. Let's call a spade a spade. The Bible calls it LUST. The majority of American men are lust driven creatures. As one of my (male)psychology professors once said, "The average American man does not know the difference between love and lust."
actually I do. lust is seeing a woman I want to have sex with NOW. Love is someone I want to have sex with over and over again, day in day out for the rest of my life.





by the way please quote that biblical scripture you were referring to.


- September 10th, 2008, 09:39 am
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I think so-your thoughts please...

Its not superficial to want a partner you are attracted to. Only those with low self esteem will disagree.
- September 10th, 2008, 09:43 am
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Why would we be dating people we are not attracted to at all?
- September 10th, 2008, 10:37 am
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Why would we be dating people we are not attracted to at all?
see, agree = self esteem
- September 10th, 2008, 10:42 am
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I think so-your thoughts please...





Its not superficial to want a partner you are attracted to. Only those with low self esteem will disagree.
Agreed. If you aren't attracted to a person, but you try to date them anyway because they're a good person, it's going to end badly for both sides. So while women might find it superficial, believe me, men are doing women a favor by not dating ones they simply aren't attracted to.





Better loneliness than the alternative of a crushed heart.
- September 10th, 2008, 10:47 am
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BSLS wrote :

I think the line, "Men are visual creatures" is a cop out. Let's call a spade a spade. The Bible calls it LUST. The majority of American men are lust driven creatures. As one of my (male)psychology professors once said, "The average American man does not know the difference between love and lust."
I am not a man andI consider myself a "visual creature". I can also say IMHO that the average American woman also does not know the difference between love and lust. Men don't hold the prize for that alone.
- September 10th, 2008, 11:10 am
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in2love, wrote :

I think so-your thoughts please...

No, I know what I am attracted to. That doesn't mean she has to be a model. It just means that yes, I must be physically attracted to her.


Women are the same way!
- September 10th, 2008, 11:25 am
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BSLS wrote :


I think the line, "Men are visual creatures" is a cop out. Let's call a spade a spade. The Bible calls it LUST. The majority of American men are lust driven creatures. As one of my (male)psychology professors once said, "The average American man does not know the difference between love and lust."


I am not a man andI consider myself a "visual creature". I can also say IMHO that the average American woman also does not know the difference between love and lust. Men don't hold the prize for that alone.
+1 Finally...
- September 10th, 2008, 11:26 am
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Why would we be dating people we are not attracted to at all?
cause they have a great personality?
- September 10th, 2008, 12:30 pm
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I have never dated, nor am I likely to ever date, a woman I did not find physically attractive.I have though wound up dating women I once thought of as being unattractive.


After I got to know them, the better they looked. By the time, I asked them out for a date, I was convinced they were really quite beautiful, that they must have done something with their hair, or got a better fitting dress, or used the right kind of makeup. Whatever the reason: they looked great and I was physically attracted to them.


It is silly and naive for anyone to assume that anyone of us will date a woman we find physically unattractive. But it is also uninformed to think that every man has exactly the same standards of physical attractiveness. There is no one size fits all kind of beauty that attracts all males. Just like women some of us like them big or small or fair or dark or loud or quiet or...And of course what is beautiful is not fixed, once and for all, Beauty is a shifting standard,
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