10 Reasons he Won't Commit

10 Reasons he Won't Commit

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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadvice — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  November 6,2008, 3:12pm

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Feeling confused because your sweetie refuses to take your relationship to the next level? One or more of these 10 things could be standing in his way.
 
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did i get banned from the top 10 lists? ===x
 
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There's only one reason someone (either sex) won't commit - because they don't want to!
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #4  November 6,2008, 4:23pm
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heh, they could've just put "9) He only wants sex"10 times and it would've still been accurate 90% of the time. =)


I'm so ashamed to be a man sometimes ...too much silt in the gene pool.
 
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why is it always the man that gets the bad no commitment rap? i know plenty of women who dont want to either
 
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raleighNCsoldier is offline raleighNCsoldier Post #6  November 6,2008, 6:56pm
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lack of maturity...yes, it's my answer for lots of people's issues. people who are LEGALLY adults but aren't MENTALLY adults. i see it every day on here & in every day life.
 
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noeyedeer is offline noeyedeer Post #7  November 14,2008, 6:45am
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Well.. here's something to think about. Did you know most women don't want to commit anymore either? Why would we, we've seen our parents marriages fail, our friends, and frankly, like the old "cow, milk, free" saying. Ladies.. here's mine.


Why do we have to suffer and buy the entire pig just for a little sausage?
 
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After a 9yrphysically/metally abusive marraige to an man that also had sexual issues.....After the divorce I found myself in a non-committed sexual relationship.I have since decided thatI am ready for more than just sex,but it was fun while it lasted.It goes both ways! Women you can do this too just keep telling yourself its only a fling, keep the emotions out of it! Yes you still have it after 40!
 
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Ditto Noeyeddeer!!!!


Why is article only about men? What about women? Every time I say I don't want marriage or living together, I get comments about how "no man wants a woman like you" or implying that I have issues. Why is that "being happy with his life" is mentioned as a valid reason why men don't commit but if a WOMAN says the same thing, there's something wrong with her? Bachelors are extolled...if you're a female bachelorette, it's a different story. Afterall, women, I guess, are SUPPOSED to want to get married and live together. Any woman who feels differently is a freak.


I see the same thing with choosing not to have kids. If a man says "I don't want kids", people say, "Well you know how it is...not all men are cut out to be fathers." If a woman says the same thing, she's "got issues", "Will change her mind," "must have been abused as a child", "must have had a bad childhood in general", etc etc.


I get really, really sick of these double standards.


Let me repeat for posterity with the appropriate corrections:


Sure, HE OR SHE may enjoy the companionship and those other relationship benefits, but only as an adjunct to the rest of HIS OR HER life. If HIS OR HER priorities are HIS OR HER friends, HIS OR HER hobbies or even HIS OR HER basic “me” time, HE OR SHE is only going to have a little extra room for the joy and wonder of you −


Way to be sexist and propulgate stereotypes EHarmony. Appreciate that. That's flipping special.
 
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raleighNCsoldier,325662 wrote :

lack of maturity...yes, it's my answer for lots of people's issues. people who are LEGALLY adults but aren't MENTALLY adults. i see it every day on here & in every day life.
So because someone prefers a different lifestyle than being in a committed relationship, they are immature? Hmm. I can't agree with that one. I say "different strokes for different folks."
 
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