nebethet is offline nebethet Post #91  October 26,2008, 8:45am
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I don't think I expected guys to really care so much about them. I agree a little bit about dressing up. I've seen girls/ladies dressed up nice but the tatoo seems to clash with the over all picture. I wonder if the guys who dislike them out of a sense of 'call me old fashioned' are also the ones who initiate the conversation on eHa or not.
 
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Tantalus is offline Tantalus Post #92  October 26,2008, 9:27am
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It's not so much that I care as it is an automatic reaction. Sort of like how you can't consciously decide whether you like the taste of a particular food (you either do or you don't), I just don't like tattoos. It's definitely not a value judgement against a person who has them.


That said, yeah, I'll initiate communication on eHarmony if I am interested. Just did earlier today, as a matter of fact. I don't have any problems whatsoever with the woman initiating either.
 
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Spider is offline Spider Post #93  October 26,2008, 9:28am
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I'd posit that there are cultural/regional/generational differences, with the regional differences being very influential. I live in a rural, conservative area, and I see men of all ages with tats. Younger women also sport them (by younger, I mean under 60).





I've seen them on farmers, blue collar workers, nurses, teachers, law enforcement, attorneys, physicians, and college professors. Even a circuit court judge, come to think of it.





I got my tattoos at 40 and 45. They have personal meaning and are not normally visible. The two guys I've dated since my divorce (both professionals in their 50) were surprised by them, but reacted favorably - enthusiastically, I"d say. I've only known one person who expressed a dislike for them; she was a religious fundamentalist who saw tattoos as a one-way ticket to eternal damnation.
 
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lacedwithhope,309170 wrote :

dkj,309114 wrote :


I'll put what I did the last time this topic came up. I'm in that demographic that just doesn't "get it" as far as tatoos go. They are even a bit of turn off to me but I'm sure younger (and older) people don't care what I think. My ex-wife had a small tatoo so, obviously, it didn't bother me THAT much.


Did she get the tattoo after you were married, if you don't mind me asking?
She had the tattoo when we were married. I have been married twice. She was my second wife and a bit younger than I.
 
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I don't know how I feel about tattoos. I don't have any, never felt the need to get them. It really depends on the type of tattoo, it's size, and it's location. It's become so commonplace it seems almost futile to take issue with them.
 
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A) "sleeved out" does not indicate that you have been in prison. It is just as common on those who have not been in prison.


B) In the corporate world where image is a part of promotion is it not common practice to where a suit? It is quite difficult to have a visible tattoo when that much skin is covered. It really shouldn't matter where you have it unless you have a facial tattoo.


C) If I am working in an office where finding out someone has a tattoo at a pool party over the weekend is the talk of the office on Monday, having my tattoos won't be my biggest concern. I'll find a new job if it is that soul suckingly pathetic.


I actually prefer women with tattoos, granted I am one of those "youngins" that don't "get" how the world works, though.
 
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Spider,309650 wrote :

I'd posit that there are cultural/regional/generational differences, with the regional differences being very influential. I live in a rural, conservative area, and I see men of all ages with tats. Younger women also sport them (by younger, I mean under 60).





I've seen them on farmers, blue collar workers, nurses, teachers, law enforcement, attorneys, physicians, and college professors. Even a circuit court judge, come to think of it.





I got my tattoos at 40 and 45. They have personal meaning and are not normally visible. The two guys I've dated since my divorce (both professionals in their 50) were surprised by them, but reacted favorably - enthusiastically, I"d say. I've only known one person who expressed a dislike for them; she was a religious fundamentalist who saw tattoos as a one-way ticket to eternal damnation.
Same for me got my tattoo at 49. It has great meaning to me. Very discreetly placed which fits my personality. Because of where it is placed I don't go showing it off to just anyone. LOL


I'm a very candid person so anyone I go out with is told about it as soon as I feel it is appropriate to share something so private. Now whether they take issue or not it is their decision. How I react is mine.


If any gentleman I am dating were to express such a strong negative and judgemental attitude as I've seen expressed by some I wouldn't want to be around him. A man who would write me off based on such a personal expression is not a man I would care to have in my life under any circumstances.


I am dating a gentleman I met through EH and believe me I let him know as soon as it was appropriate. He doesn't have any tattoos and as a rule doesn't care for them. He does care for me so he accepts it as part of who I am. I think if you were to ask him he would say he's grown to like it
 
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lacedwithhope, wrote :


Guys, do you find it a turn-on for


a. Visible tattoo


b. Strategically-placed tattoo


c. None (both a turn-off)


d. No preference (neither are turn-offs)


e. Only a visible tattoo is a turn-off, but who cares if it's strategically-placed?


C.


Tattoo's today don't represent what they did twenty, thirty odd years or more ago. Once they were signs of individuality, now they're passe and conforming. How many people have barbwire, tribal or lower back tattoo's, raise your hand...there you have it. It will be so much fun to see people at 70+ with wrinkled sleeves.


You know, as years progress we should be advanced yet watching pop culture just solidifies the fact...people are so self-conscious, insecure and lemmings.
 
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Why do people without tattoos find them so offensive? This is something that I have always wondered, it isn't your body, why do you view something that somoene else choses to do to their apperance so offensive? Do you have similar negative knee jerk reactions to how people dress as well? It really has always made me wonder why there is such hate for something that is really so inconsequential.
 
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I'm with why so serious. I think we are all allowed to do to our body what we want, and I don't know why there is such negative energy being used on this. If you don't like it and you wouldn't date it, say that, but it's wrong to attack someone's character based on one.
 
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