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Incredibly childish or petty as it may sound, have you ever done or wanted to do something to "getback" atan ex who ended the relationship by either cheating or being an incredible jerk toyou? If so, what did you do? I'm thinking because I saw a rerunof Designing Women last night and the Mary Jo character (for those of y'all whoknow the show) went on public access television and warned viewers about an obnoxiousserial dater who reeled her in thendumped her just as things were getting serious.It was funny and got me to thinking about how many times I've come across jerks and poofers and how for a split second wished they could feel as rotten as I did then. Not that I ever would do something like Mary Jo did, of course, but the thought of it was pretty funny!
- October 22nd, 2008, 09:38 pm
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um...have you heard of dont date my ex.com? I haven't posted but I have surfed. I think there are a few sites like that out there.


At the end of the day any physical retaliation just isn't worth it, all you accomplish is him feeling justified because you are "crazy" or because he knows you are still thinking of him.
- October 22nd, 2008, 09:44 pm
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Wanted to? Yes. Fantasized about it briefly? Sure.


But when it comes right down to it, I just want them out of my life. "Getting even" is just another thing that will keep them a part of my life, albeit now in a really ugly and unhappy way. I'm still spending energy on them.


I'd just rather get on with my life and move forward. Why expend more energy on someone who's done me wrong? I love the line from Grosse Point Blank from Minnie Driver: "You don't get it, do you? You don't get to have me!" That's "punishment" enough for me - I could've been a positive factor in their life and we could have had a lot of fun together. Now they don't get to have that. Sucks for them.
- October 22nd, 2008, 10:25 pm
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yes....oddly enough fate/life got him back andI was there to see it. Oddly enough I felt sorry for him. Kind of. At least I acted like it. Maybe I just feel too guilty to let myself really take satisfaction in someone else'spain. Even if it was him.


Don't get revenge. Have faith that what comes around goes around, and it will be far better and more satisfying than anything you could plan yourself, and you won't look like a crazy.
- October 22nd, 2008, 10:35 pm
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Like cp30 said...life has a way of doing it for you. A few friends suggested that I "get even" with my ex, and like Glider-Pilot said...I said not having me was punishment enough. He will create his own misery. And he has, and I have a clean slate.
- October 22nd, 2008, 10:39 pm
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somebody once said that revengeis a dish best served cold...


- October 22nd, 2008, 10:41 pm
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Yes, I have thought about revenge many times in my life, but avoid practicing it like I avoid jumping into a fire naked.


As Ricardo Mantablaun (spelled right?) once said, "Revenge is a dish best served cold."


That may be true, but it also makes a person's heart cold and hateful.
- October 22nd, 2008, 10:43 pm
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LonelyStarState wrote :

somebody once said that revengeis a dish best served cold...

They were correct.
- October 22nd, 2008, 10:44 pm
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No, there is no satisifaction in revenge. And no, I haven't done that to my ex, he is the father of my sons.


How would that make you feel better? In what way?


- October 22nd, 2008, 10:51 pm
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goldengirl7676, wrote :

Incredibly childish or petty as it may sound, have you ever done or wanted to do something to "getback" atan ex who ended the relationship by either cheating or being an incredible jerk toyou? If so, what did you do? I'm thinking because I saw a rerunof Designing Women last night and the Mary Jo character (for those of y'all whoknow the show) went on public access television and warned viewers about an obnoxiousserial dater who reeled her in thendumped her just as things were getting serious.It was funny and got me to thinking about how many times I've come across jerks and poofers and how for a split second wished they could feel as rotten as I did then. Not that I ever would do something like Mary Jo did, of course, but the thought of it was pretty funny!
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