PC3708 is offline PC3708 Post #1  October 20,2008, 5:03pm
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I joined Eharmony with hopes of finding someone that didn't have sex on the brain constantly. I'm dating someone (long distance-we haven't met yet) that I can't send enough photos to. I have one on my site, then I sent him about 6. Now he still wants more and when I talk to him late at night it's "what do you have on", "Imagine me touching you", etc. I am disgusted. I mean I'm as sexual as the next person but give me a break. By the way, this guy is really into church and talks about it when he's not talking about sex. Is this just the true nature of men and I need to accept that there will not be a geniune "getting to know me period" ?
 
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Diamond730 is offline Diamond730 Post #2  October 20,2008, 5:11pm

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Thats disgusting, stop talking to him right now. If you don't get anything out of him doing that whats the point? Move on and don't look back
 
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Red Sox Girl is offline Red Sox Girl Post #3  October 20,2008, 5:14pm

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OK, get rid of that kid. I had 2 guys like that a year go, kick him out of your life - he has no interest in a real relationship. You're not dating him anyway if you've never met.
 
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Jato87 is offline Jato87 Post #4  October 20,2008, 5:16pm
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You've clearly got a real nut on your hands, and you need to drop him. On the other hand, don't expect toomit sexual attraction if you're looking for a mate. That's what mating is all about.
 
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Sounds pretty creepy to me - you haven't even met yet. Keep looking - I was on eH for about 7 months - reached OC with a couple dozen, actually met/dated 6. Never had an experience that came anywhere near yours.
 
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istillbelieve is offline istillbelieve Post #6  October 20,2008, 5:18pm
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Diamond730,301580 wrote :

Thats disgusting, stop talking to him right now. If you don't get anything out of him doing that whats the point? Move on and don't look back
ABSOLUTELY!!! this guy sounds dangerous. at best, has a problem with double standards within himself. this is not normal for either gender. GET AWAY! .. ask yourself if this would be acceptable for a man you would meet in person. and do you really want to meet this one in person. would you feel comfortable or safe telling him NO in person?
 
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Cybersex is just plain creepy. This isn't typical male behavior, its pervy and loserish. Drop this guy.


I mean as a guy I do have sex on the brain, but not to an extent that it controls my behavior and personality to a point that I can't have a conversation/get to know someone/want to do something besides sex.


Never judge all men based on one creeps behavior, or even several creeps behavior, we aren't all loserish perves, but we do have sex on the brain, but so do most women too.
 
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PC3708, wrote :

I joined Eharmony with hopes of finding someone that didn't have sex on the brain constantly. I'm dating someone (long distance-we haven't met yet) that I can't send enough photos to. I have one on my site, then I sent him about 6. Now he still wants more and when I talk to him late at night it's "what do you have on", "Imagine me touching you", etc. I am disgusted. I mean I'm as sexual as the next person but give me a break. By the way, this guy is really into church and talks about it when he's not talking about sex. Is this just the true nature of men and I need to accept that there will not be a geniune "getting to know me period" ?
Men are not all like this. I have dated quite a few and this is not the norm. Yes, guys have sex on the brain at all times, but the phone talk would be more appropriate if you already had a phyicial relationship or if it was in fun. Sounds odd about all of the pics too and if you have never met that is not really dating. Try meeting up with him and see if he is the same or wants to really get to know you. Just my advice.
 
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PC3708, wrote :

I joined Eharmony with hopes of finding someone that didn't have sex on the brain constantly. I'm dating someone (long distance-we haven't met yet) that I can't send enough photos to. I have one on my site, then I sent him about 6. Now he still wants more and when I talk to him late at night it's "what do you have on", "Imagine me touching you", etc. I am disgusted. I mean I'm as sexual as the next person but give me a break. By the way, this guy is really into church and talks about it when he's not talking about sex. Is this just the true nature of men and I need to accept that there will not be a geniune "getting to know me period" ?
Okay, we can't say "Ewwwww" too many times here! Good grief, stop sending this guy your pictures and get rid of the Lurker! What a creepy guy.


There's a difference between a guy who knows how to control his "nature" and a guy who has no clue. Guess which one you got?


I think I need a shower . . .
 
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PC3708, wrote :


I joined Eharmony with hopes of finding someone that didn't have sex on the brain constantly. I'm dating someone (long distance-we haven't met yet) that I can't send enough photos to. I have one on my site, then I sent him about 6. Now he still wants more and when I talk to him late at night it's "what do you have on", "Imagine me touching you", etc. I am disgusted. I mean I'm as sexual as the next person but give me a break. By the way, this guy is really into church and talks about it when he's not talking about sex. Is this just the true nature of men and I need to accept that there will not be a geniune "getting to know me period" ?


First of all:
How can you be "dating" someone you have not yet met???? Don't get me wrong -I believe that (although rare) some peoplecan have a real connection... and can get to know each other pretty well... and can develop a genuine bond beforehaving met face-to-face. But regardless of the depth of the connection/relationship, how is it possible for them to actuallybe "dating" if they haven't met ?

That being said, based on many of your comments, it doesn't appear that you and heknow each other very well at all.

Secondly and in reference to your point:
If you're so "disgusted", by his remarks and sexual overatures, why nottell him?If you do tell him (or if you have told him) and it doesn't stop/hasn't stoppedthen simply stop talking to him. There is no way I would keep speaking with someone who disgusts me.
 
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