How do you tell someone you are dating, "honey, It's time to lose weight?"


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zeb431 is offline zeb431 Post #1  October 18,2008, 9:57am
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Looks like both are going into gifted programs. ;-)

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"Telling your partner it’s time to lose weight can be tricky, but it’s something many couples grapple with these days. Close to two-thirds of U.S. adults are overweight or obese, an almost 50 percent increase from 30 years ago, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Then there’s “the marriage penalty” problem. Five years after saying “I do,” married people on average gain six to nine more pounds than their single counterparts, a recent study of young adults by University of North Carolina researchers suggests.

Having the talk is worth it. Not only can your partner's health be affected by excess weight, but packing on the pounds can weigh on the relationship in other ways. An overweight spouse may not be as physically appealing to you or may not even feel like being physically intimate."


wow, now who would ever say something so crass or feel that way about their partner simply because they gained a few lbs?
 
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How do I tell him "Honey, your head is HUGE! You're an egotistical jack apple?"
 
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Zeb, you have a WEIRD weight obsession ... are you AWARE of that ??? Seriously, you bring up this topic at least once a month ... in one form or other ...


But, for the thread's sake, I have actually gently remarked to a guy I knew that he had a 'buddha belly'... At first, he thought that was kinda 'cute', and he'd pat his belly playfully, well, I never actually 'laughed' or THOUGHT it was 'cute', and he eventually got that too. Believe me, it SANK IN. He actively began to do something about it ...


We stopped seeing each other for other reasons. From what I hear he's put on another 20-30 pounds ... that's a pity. I'd mostly put it down to his preference for 'junk fast food', and a non-physical life style. He can't cook and prefers the couch ...


I am lucky that I have never had a problem with my weight. If a guy DID say something to me about it, I'd likely CONSIDER it, and then if I thought it would a)improve my health and b)make him happier with my physical being, I might do something about it. One thing for sure, ain't never gonna go for the 'muscle wieght trained look'. I don't like the 'aesthetic'. Great on a guy, not so great on a dame. And that's MY OPINION.
 
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The thing that irks me about this is those who don't have a weight issue seem to be laboring under the impression that those that do are 1. unaware or 2. lazy. They are neither lazy or unaware and your pointing it out will likely only succeed in making them feel worse about themselves than they already do.


And that said, I'm getting off my but and going running.
 
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didn't we already sell this dead horse?
 
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cindy_lou_who,298822 wrote :

didn't we already sell this dead horse?
Well I wasn't here when it was sold, I'd like to place my bid. LoL





And to the comment of people thinking that fat people (what's the politically correct term?) are un aware and lazy. Well, maybe not ALL of them are lazy BUT a large majority can directly link their obesity to being PHYSICALLY lazy and having bad habits. Maybe they are good workers and get the job done, but I'm just talking physically here. Eating and exercise habits are prolly the number 1 cause of the increase of obesity in America. Fast food is easy and EVERYWHERE and exercise is just too much work after a long day at work.


And what happened to the fast food industry. I remember before I went to Iraq that when I ordered a large soda and fry it was NOT a GALLON of soda and a pound of fries. Who can drink that huge thing in one sitting? Has americas stomach become that hard to fill up?


I've put on a few pounds (15) since I've gotten back myself. So I fall into that category as well.
 
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I may be completely sheltered, but I rarely see couples where only one person is fat. It is usually both, and in that situation its easy to suggest going to the gym or taking a yoga class together for the sake of both of your health.
 
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do you ever get off this train?
 
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whysoserious,298843 wrote :

I may be completely sheltered, but I rarely see couples where only one person is fat. It is usually both, and in that situation its easy to suggest going to the gym or taking a yoga class together for the sake of both of your health.
Just wait, here pretty soon the word fat is going to be considered the new "f" word. They are being discriminated against for such and such. Fat people are going to start to sue employers because they think they didn't get the job because they are fat. They are the majority now, so just watch how all them votes can influence people in politics. Oohhh, I can see it now.


McDonald's in every gas station, low fat items will have to be taken off the shelves because it makes fat people feel "bad for themselves", magazines will have to be covered up in stores like the p0rn mags because some fat girl killed herself after looking at it. A bit synical but I can see it happening, only in America of course.The rest of the world will just sit back and laugh at us.


Watch a movie called, "Idiocracy", it's a retarded movie, but it shows a comical view of what COULD happen in America if current trends continue.Example: 500 years from now a Star bucks coffee will cost 1.5 billion dollars because of the devaluing of the US Dollar. LoL
 
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Oh, and btw, I'm a fatty, so I can say those things. LoL
 
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