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idk is offline idk Post #1  October 17,2008, 12:11pm
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So i met this guy on eharmony we went on a few dates and a month ago by. Any ways one night while on the phone he say " I DONT KNOW IF YOU'VE NOTICE BUT I'VE BEEN TRYING TO TELL YOU SOMETHING. I LOVE YOU"


wHAT SO I DO? I'VE ONLY KNOWN HIS FOR A MONTH. IS IT HUMANLY POSSIBLE TO LOVE SOME IN ONE MONTH TIME.DO I SAY IT BACK EVEN THOUGH I MIGHT NOT MEAN IT?
 
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Love is really a decision you make. Most people make it unaware and base it on feeling good about the other person. It is definitely possible that he loves you, but it might just be based on the fact that he also really likes you right now which means it will increase or decrease based on that factor...
 
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Don't say it unless you mean it. Saying it just because the other person says it doesn't help anything.


Sure, its possible to fall in love in a short period, not that it is always advisable, but it is possible. People fall in love differently, so there is no reason to expect your partner to fall in love at the same time that they do.
 
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Never say I love you to someone just because they said so to you.


Is it possible to fall in love after one month? Some people claim that they fell in love after the first sight (which, i personally don't believe in) - but yeah .. it is possible to fall in love after one month. But, it's also possible that he made wrong conclusions about his feelings towards you.
 
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Its definantly possible to fall in love with someone after a month, but if you're uncomfortable with it by no means say itback.
 
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LOVE is a choice for committment. It is NOT a feeling of infatuation. I think too often, people confuse infatuation with love. Infatuation waxes and wanes, true love is the committment to remain, despite the cyclical tendencies of relationships over a long period of time.


having said that. don't say you love someone unless you are willing to risk the rejection. when you are at the point you are willing to risk the rejection, it don't matter.
 
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As far as I'm concerned, the right time to say "I love you" is when it's the truth. Any other time, and you're just fooling him and yourself.
 
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idk, wrote :

IS IT HUMANLY POSSIBLE TO LOVE SOME IN ONE MONTH TIME.DO I SAY IT BACK EVEN THOUGH I MIGHT NOT MEAN IT?
Believe me. For a man, it's very possible to FALL IN LOVE over 1 month. I've been there. I wouldn't suggest leading him on (or in the wrong direction), though, if you don't feel the same about him. I recommend taking it very slow with him and see where it leads. If it ain't mutual somewhere down the road, chances are "someone's" heart's gonna break. Be honest with yourself AND him and keep your personal boundaries comfortable. You can't MAKE yourself fall in love with somebody.
 
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ImmanuelInMyHeart,297699 wrote :

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IS IT HUMANLY POSSIBLE TO LOVE SOME IN ONE MONTH TIME.DO I SAY IT BACK EVEN THOUGH I MIGHT NOT MEAN IT?


Believe me. For a man, it's very possible to FALL IN LOVE over 1 month. I've been there. I wouldn't suggest leading him on (or in the wrong direction), though, if you don't feel the same about him. I recommend taking it very slow with him and see where it leads. If it ain't mutual somewhere down the road, chances are "someone's" heart's gonna break. Be honest with yourself AND him and keep your personal boundaries comfortable. You can't MAKE yourself fall in love with somebody.
And, as some others said, "True love is a held commitment even after the initial emphatuation period disappears."
 
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idk, wrote :

So i met this guy on eharmony we went on a few dates and a month ago by. Any ways one night while on the phone he say " I DONT KNOW IF YOU'VE NOTICE BUT I'VE BEEN TRYING TO TELL YOU SOMETHING. I LOVE YOU"


wHAT SO I DO? I'VE ONLY KNOWN HIS FOR A MONTH. IS IT HUMANLY POSSIBLE TO LOVE SOME IN ONE MONTH TIME.DO I SAY IT BACK EVEN THOUGH I MIGHT NOT MEAN IT?
You tell him to pop a pep-fizz and sleep it off.
 
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