How far is a " reasonable distance" to drive to meet someone from eH ?


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bravethestorm is offline bravethestorm Post #11  October 17,2008, 12:26am
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6 hours would be the maximum I'd drive as even figuring up to 3 hours together...that's still another 6 hours back home same day.


I'd say reasonable for me would be up to 3-4 and I would prefer 3 and under.


Never had an eharmony match less than an hour from me.
 
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ThePriestess,296894 wrote :

6 hours.
You could be here in time for the SoCaliLilies bash Saturday -- you'd have...5 dates!
 
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Altair is offline Altair Post #13  October 17,2008, 5:42am
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I may go 4 hrs, but it would have to be an over nighter as i wouldn't want to drive back after a long day and date. I guess I'd better close out all my out of state matches.
 
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All the way back to B-more, darhlin.


But seriously, if you live in a populated area meet half way and that should be no more than an hour. If you live in BFE gas up the truck, cowboy, cause your options are limited.
 
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I had a LDR with a guy I met at a music festival in Austin. We lived about 3 hours away from each other. It worked out well for us . . . until he moved back to Los Angeles. ***Sigh***
 
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Holy shnikes!! Six hour drive time! I'd like to see someone do that more than a few times!


Flying and driving or two different considerations...but as someone said to me recently, without a plan, travel like that can't last for long.
 
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I would be willing to drive 5-6 hrs but would have to spend the night. 6 hrs from Atlanta one could get thru SC to Raleigh;past Nashville to Bowling Green; thru Alabama into Mississippi and to Gainesville Florida. So that's a big area to meet people, yet I've had matches close me that live in Chattanooga TN because physical distance is too far. (that's less than 2 hours from ATL )
 
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LonelyStarState, wrote :

I don't know if this topic has been beaten to death since i've only been on 'advice' for 3 days (hush!) but what i would like to know is this:


What would you consider to be a " Reasonable Distance " to DRIVE out and meet someone you met either on eH Matching or on eH Advice?


I would say that 0-3 hours is reasonable... and 4 would be pushing it.




Hi Star I tend to not like to drive that much, so I'd say no more then an hours drive for me. I mean I love to travel and go on vacations, etc., but a geographically challenged relationship wouldn't work that well for me as far as traveling all the time. If the guy enjoyed driving and didn't mind making a trip to see me then that would be easier, but I wouldn't expect someone to do what I wouldn't do. It would have to be their personal choice.
 
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wanting to meet someone isn't reasonable to begin with. Reason has nothing to do wtih it. but since I DO live in BFE...it is 3 hours to the airport, fly to wherever they are, mmet, fly back, drive back. i really don't know how that works though, lacking opportunity to implement it.
 
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With regards to the majority of matches I encounter online, they all seem to be much of a muchness, and none have "stuck out" as it were in the past year that I've been playing this fiddle - so my typical method is to keep my geographical range set to about 60m, because for some random punter who I've only emailed once & spoken to once, I'm not going to go to the end of the earth to meet him for the first time.


That being said, however, when someone sticks out, no matter how I meet him, I'll travel anywhere in the country to see them - but as pointed out above, if something good develops inter-state, a plan of action is needed eventually. Nobody really wants a "long distance relationship" - to me, that phrase is an oxymoron. I'll happily do the travel thing for someone worthy of that effort (& if I think they're worthy, it won't be an effort), but ultimately I want my favorite person to be close enough that I can run to the fridge and grab him another beer when his bottle is empty!
 
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