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LonelyStarState is offline LonelyStarState Post #32  October 21,2008, 7:59pm

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Luvnushooz,303112 wrote :

LonelyStarState,294582 wrote :


high maintenance....


its someone who expects/demands the finer/best things in life when something simpler will do.


its someone who goes for the status/name thing rather then being more rational.


its an attitude where their standards are so high, 99.99999999% of people or things will never be 'good enough' for them.


its someone who expects others to spend money on them, irregardless of cost


+1. Happy to say that this does not apply to me.
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[quote=Luvnushooz,303132]

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+1. Happy to say that this does not apply to me.
 
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+1. Happy to say that this does not apply to me.
 
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High maintenance is someone that orders a Venti Non-Fat caramel machiatto with whip cream and extra caramel and has the decency to ask every five minutes if that dress makes her look fat.


After the fifth time you respond with, "No...you're body makes you look fat!!", which in turn sets her off on an emotional roller coaster and doesn't eat anything but tofu and greens for a month because of one little comment.


JK!!! On a serious note, high maintenance is someone that says I love you fifteen times in fifteen minutes. Not because they love you sooooo much they just have to let you know about it, but because they have to hear you say it fourteen more times!!! Does that make sense?
 
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I have never seen a high maintainence woman in the physical sense. A woman can spend infinite amounts of time grooming, shopping, what have you. Wouldn't faze me even a little bit. I enjoy doing that kind of stuff myself and would happily tag along.


I must say that I have indeed been familiar with emotionally high maintainence women. Too many of them in fact.
 
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LonelyStarState,294582 wrote :

high maintenance....


its someone who expects/demands the finer/best things in life when something simpler will do.


its someone who goes for the status/name thing rather then being more rational.


its an attitude where their standards are so high, 99.99999999% of people or things will never be 'good enough' for them.


its someone who expects others to spend money on them, irregardless of cost
That's not high maintainence dude. That's nothing. That's rather easy to handle.


High maintainence is people with emotional insecurities, like whether someone loves them or not.
 
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To me high maintenance means excessive talk "about the relationship." Having to reassure someone constantly "that everything is O.K." Once and while is fine but some people seem to need this all the time.


Doing your nails? That isn't maintenance that requires my attention so it doesn't count in my book. Pretty yourself up... I don't see a down side to that...
 
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OBeth is offline OBeth Post #40  October 22,2008, 9:43am
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MY HIGH MAINTENANCE MAN


The last man I dated was very successful professionally, intelligent, creativeand was handsome. He was also dependable, helpful and had many admirable qualities. HOWEVER, he constantly needed reassurance both verbally and physicallythat I was attracted to him and that I wanted to be with him He groveledin and obsessed overhis own irrational feelings of inadequacyand would drag me into long drawn out analyzing conversations about our "relationship" insisting that there must have been something that happened to ME in my past to cause me to not be able to feel for him in return what he called "passion."


I tried to "talk" with him many, many times over the course of the months we dated to see if he could accept my affections because he did have so many other attractive qualities. In the end it got to the point he made my skin crawl and he fulfilled his own prophecy. I was no longer attracted to him and did not want to be with him.


I broke up with him six months ago. I did it bravely and explained to him in person that I was not happy in our relationship. I wished him well and said goodbye. I had been telling him for weeks in our "talks" that I was feeling smothered by him. So it should not have been a surprise to him.


He stalked me for many weeks. He called and emailed many, many times a day. I did not take his calls, I did not reply to his emails and when he showed up at my house I told him (from the other side of my locked door) he was frightening me and to leave or I would call the police. I did call the police to prove to him that I meant what I said on a few occassions. NOTHING deterred him. Thankfully, he has slowed down and now I receive emails only occassionally which hecomposes and sendsin the wee hours of the morning when he should be sleeping - still obsessing and trying to convince with his "loving" words or persuade with guilt or threaten with eternal damnation for me give "us" another chance.


This is a true story and an extreme case but I have learned some valuable lessons and one is that I DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH A "HIGH MAINTENANCE" MAN. I completely understand what one means when they refer to emotional high maintenance. It's repulsive and the next time a guy says to me HE wants to have "the talk" I will probably "poof." Ick.
 
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