Quick Scan Closes

I've been observing the boards for a little bit - and finally decided to take the plunge and post a topic.


I've been on EHarmony for a while - though sort of off and on. I'll keep up with it for a little while, then neglect it and there are so many matches that it becomes a chore to sort through them all.


I have noticed that I have a few things that I will usually close out for, and I'm curious what other's will instantly close out for. I know I'm opening myself up for criticism, but that's okay, bring it on if you must, I can handle it!


My list:


1. Someone who is shorter than I am. I'm 5'6" - and it's nothing against short dudes, but I have a "thing" about feeling large. (no, I'm not large - I'm a size 2/4) I actually love to wear heels too - so someone short poses a problem for me. I usually date very tall men - however - I did recently step out of the box on that criteria and met someone who, if anything, will be a lifelong friend. The amount of things we have in common on a whole 'nother level is uncanny! (I wear my flat shoes around him as much as possible, though he really really likes me in heels! LOL)


2. I scroll down to books read - and if they don't read - I will usually close them out. You could list academic text books or technical manuals if you're a mechanic, I don't care, but everyone should read something!


3. Someone who says they're into "Star Trek" or "Dungeons & Dragons" Sorry guys, when I was in school, these interests seemed to have quite the little obsessive followers - almost cult-like, total turn off.


4. If your under job you put "having fun" or "truck driver" - vain, maybe, but you should be employed, and I haven't met any truck drivers that I have anything in common with at all.


5. If under "what your best friend/s know" you put "not now" or something equally stupid, I feel like you're not witty or open enough for my taste - personal preference..nothing more, nothing less.


6.Multiple spelling/grammar errors - I need intellectually intelligent people. I also think that something as important as your first impression should be proofread!


7. If all their answers are pat. We all love our parents and our children and it's a given (in my opinion) that those people are priorities in our lives. I like to hear something else that interests a man other than the obvious in a profile. The obvious doesn't really make you stand out at all and it kind of shows he put little thought into what he wrote. Again, only my opinion!


8.Someone who's into NASCAR - can't stomach the sport! If it's that important to them that they feel the need to mention it in a profile, it's a big enough part of their life and my interests don't include racing every Sunday for what is it - 10 months out of the year? Yikes!


9. No photo. In this day and age, EVERYONE has a digital photo somewhere. They are easy enough to obtain if you don't. I feel like it's lazy and/or dishonest to not represent your whole self, which includes what you look like.


I'm sure I'll add in some more..but these are off the top of my head...have fun!


Amy

there are so many matches that it becomes a chore to sort through them all.


I have noticed that I have a few things that I will usually close out for, and I'm curious what other's will instantly close out for. I know I'm opening myself up for criticism

I've been observing the boards for a little bit - and finally decided to take the plunge and post a topic.


I've been on EHarmony for a while - though sort of off and on. I'll keep up with it for a little while, then neglect it and there are so many matches that it becomes a chore to sort through them all.


I have noticed that I have a few things that I will usually close out for, and I'm curious what other's will instantly close out for. I know I'm opening myself up for criticism, but that's okay, bring it on if you must, I can handle it!


My list:


1. Someone who is shorter than I am. I'm 5'6" - and it's nothing against short dudes, but I have a "thing" about feeling large. (no, I'm not large - I'm a size 2/4) I actually love to wear heels too - so someone short poses a problem for me. I usually date very tall men - however - I did recently step out of the box on that criteria and met someone who, if anything, will be a lifelong friend. The amount of things we have in common on a whole 'nother level is uncanny! (I wear my flat shoes around him as much as possible, though he really really likes me in heels! LOL)


2. I scroll down to books read - and if they don't read - I will usually close them out. You could list academic text books or technical manuals if you're a mechanic, I don't care, but everyone should read something!


3. Someone who says they're into "Star Trek" or "Dungeons & Dragons" Sorry guys, when I was in school, these interests seemed to have quite the little obsessive followers - almost cult-like, total turn off.


4. If your under job you put "having fun" or "truck driver" - vain, maybe, but you should be employed, and I haven't met any truck drivers that I have anything in common with at all.


5. If under "what your best friend/s know" you put "not now" or something equally stupid, I feel like you're not witty or open enough for my taste - personal preference..nothing more, nothing less.


6.Multiple spelling/grammar errors - I need intellectually intelligent people. I also think that something as important as your first impression should be proofread!


7. If all their answers are pat. We all love our parents and our children and it's a given (in my opinion) that those people are priorities in our lives. I like to hear something else that interests a man other than the obvious in a profile. The obvious doesn't really make you stand out at all and it kind of shows he put little thought into what he wrote. Again, only my opinion!


8.Someone who's into NASCAR - can't stomach the sport! If it's that important to them that they feel the need to mention it in a profile, it's a big enough part of their life and my interests don't include racing every Sunday for what is it - 10 months out of the year? Yikes!


9. No photo. In this day and age, EVERYONE has a digital photo somewhere. They are easy enough to obtain if you don't. I feel like it's lazy and/or dishonest to not represent your whole self, which includes what you look like.


I'm sure I'll add in some more..but these are off the top of my head...have fun!


Amy

2.) More than 3 mentions of any one thing: God, working out, or his finances are the usual culprits. (yes, I said "God". Yes, I'm a pastor, looking for a Christian partner. But eH frequently matches me with guys who sound downright fanatical.)

HAVE YOU NOTICED under topic "Success Stories" there are only 20 posts with 491 views vs.. topic "Dating" which has 2908 topics and 109029 views? Pretty clear indication that most and I mean the vast majority of us are going to get nothing out of EH except puzzlement, frustration and dissappointment.


Men and women - we have analyzed, categorized and stereotyped ourselves to death.


I don't think there is a snowballs chance in hell I'm going to meet any man - not even one that is shorter than me, doesn't know how to read (or even spell the name of his "profession").is fat and bald, earns below the poverty line,snorts, farts, has bad table manners, drives a Monster truckthat he modified himself 20 years ago and still thinks that he's God's gift to women and that I owe him something after finally making a dinner date at McDonald'sand paying for my own Big Macto find out that he's absolutely nothing like the photo nor profile that he has put out their to lure me in.


Jaded? You bet. Disgusted? Absolutely. Ashamed of my attitude? Not tonight......