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SierraMountainAir is offline SierraMountainAir Post #1  October 12,2008, 10:29am
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I've no problem making an extra effort, for a LDR, to an certainextent because I enjoy treating a woman like a lady and doing the best I can to make sure she enjoys the date.





This one really worked, even though it was a 450 mile RT.





This was at the Mill Valley Film festival, and we strolledaround Mill Valley afterwards, a town I know well because ,u grandmother and mother had lived there since the 1920s, now a haven for rich bohemians and millionaires.







(Sundance FF) Synopsis: Road movie, love story, and spiritual odyssey: Ricardo de Montreuil's richly atmospheric Máncora is that rare film so sensual that you not only watch it, but you also feel it. From the stunning actors to the lush locations, it washes over... Road movie, love story, and spiritual odyssey: Ricardo de Montreuil's richly atmospheric Máncora is that rare film so sensual that you not only watch it, but you also feel it. From the stunning actors to the lush locations, it washes over you like a warm ocean wave, transporting you to beautiful Peruvian places as it tells an intoxicating tale of forbidden desire.







To cope with his father’s recent suicide, Santiago decides to escape the harsh Lima winter for the picturesque beach town of Máncora. Upon his departure, he receives an unexpected visit from his beautiful stepsister, Ximena, and her arrogant husband, Inigo. The three take off on a party-fueled road trip, picking up a bohemian hitchhiker along the way before arriving in Máncora. Once in the beach town, they let loose, causing romantic tensions that threaten to tear the group apart.







Máncora is a dazzling second feature by de Montreuil and a remarkable vehicle for his amazing young actors--Elsa Pataky, Jason Day, and Enrique Murciano. They scintillate on screen, nearly combusting against the breathtaking backdrop. The intense, almost-physical force of the film’s visuals creates a truly transforming experience. Indeed the magic of the film’s imagery, music, and location provides a passionate journey into a world rarely seen in film and shows off the immense talents of an exciting new cinematic voice





Then we continued to Sausalito nearby for more of the same, enjoyed the weather and the air show withe the Blue Angels jets performing aerobatics over the San Francisco skyline. And a lovely upscale Italian lunch afterwards.





Afterwards, we drove across the San Rafael bridge to the Pacific East (ALL ASIAN) mall so I could buy loaves of coconut bread that the old retiredladies that live up here love but can't buy. I will give them out this afternoon





Then we went to downBerkeley, and enjoyed that place till the sun set. The hippie head shops, secondhand bookstores and clothes and natural herb stores were fun too.





Actually, I have to honestlysay I gave her once of the nicest dates you could get from any guy wanting to showcase the San Franisco area but still be ALL OUTSIDE San Francisco proper, this time. It can be such a fun and romantic place.





And unfortunately at the end she started sniffling with a cold.








But why wouldn't she hold hands at the movies; why wouldn't she put her arm around me when we strolled down Bridgeway in Sausalito peering into the stores there? Why wouldn't she kiss me at sunset in Berkeley looking towards the city








She was from the eHarmony paid site, and this was our 5th or 6th date since April when we met and I found this place too.
I liked her a lot, and we get on well and she seems to trust me.








But after reading the posts here for some months I am certain, that there are several women scattered all over the country / Canada who might have really enjoyed a date likethis, WITH some kissing and hand holding. Is romance/appreciation of sparkling moments justdead or something








I am pretty sure now I will have to call this one awrap and just move along, so that's OK.no chemistry for her maybe, whatever.But at least it was a nice day, with great warm 75* weather everywhereand some great and unforgettablememories were made.





But with a companion who had a bit more romance in mind, I think it would have been a PERFECT day.








Why do I feel like the Supreme Satirist is laughing at me,








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6DLE,


As a Bay Area native, I was envisioning your perfect date, through all its delightful events and activities in my mind's eye. Under perfectly blue skies, from the Blue Angels, to Berkeley, that must have been one terrific day! I'm sure she appreciated all the thoughtfulness you put into planning this date. She'd have to be oblivious not to see how crazy you are about her!


That said, is the feeling mutual? Or is she just a little shy or reserved? Do you get any sense of how she feels about you? Is she concerned about having a LDR, or not feeling the chemistry? It seems that without the Conversation, this relationship will be frustrating for you both on various levels.


I'm hoping good thoughts for you, for your next perfect date with your next perfect gal!
 
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hey 6dle899 ,
You said this the 5th or 6th date right?
was this over a weekend? seemed like more than 1 days worth of activities...
Was there kissing or hand holding on the other dates?
Did she give you any indication from other dates that romance would ensue?
you certainly provided many moments for the perfect romantic encounter...
It sounds wonderful and I could envision the areas you wrote of....
You did say she started sniffling.... perhaps she truly felt ill...
sorry to hear all that effort felt unappreciated and unrequited...
Hopefully next time, an experience like this will be with an appreciative woman.
 
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It does indeed sound like ta glorious day and date.



I agree with Shelby, it seems like you may want to to have the Conversation. Since you have enjoyed yourself on a number of dates with this woman a conversation with her on what she wants and what you want is in order, in my view. You are articulate, thoughtful and express yourself well so I think you may get the truth from her by being honest yourself. When you talk with her, I suggest you talk about how you feel, but not offer up any suggestions on how she feels. I think these kinds of conversations, like many others, are susecptible to "psychological anchoring."


So sorry she did not appreciate the gift of the perfect day with you!
 
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You are the guy, you should be making the moves. Maybe she was afraid to kiss so she would not pass on her cold.
 
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You saw the Blue Angels without me?!?!??!!!!!!
 
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japaneseblueeyes,291054 wrote :

You are the guy, you should be making the moves. Maybe she was afraid to kiss so she would not pass on her cold.
Oh, I don't know about that anymore. In my experience, women seem to get pissed if you try to make any kind of move so for the most part I'm going to let them or be very tentative about it if I'm making the first move. Many times burned, cautious going forward.
 
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Was there kissing or hand holding on the other dates?
Did she give you any indication from other dates that romance would ensue?
Or were you hoping this would be the first romantic interlude...?
 
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