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At the suggestion of another member of the forum here, I'm interested in hearing what you all think the key to happiness is in the context of the dating/relationship world. I'll start:


"The key to happiness is lowered expectations." (I'm kinda kidding, kinda not...)


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- October 9th, 2008, 08:10 pm
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Happiness is a simple equation. It is the difference between what you want and what you have. Some have all they need and want and are happy. Others with the same set of circumstances are unhappy. It's all a matter of perspective, choice, realism and the ability to adapt. For me, there is always an upside and I choose to be happy though others in my exact position with my exact set of circumstances may not be.
- October 9th, 2008, 08:19 pm
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learning to be content, whatever you have; be thankful; whatever you don't have; being easy on yourself and others, we are all doing the best we can at the time; learning not to hang out with folks who are mean to you or others or are even just not good for you -- being alone is better than that; looking for the good in others and learning to forgive them when they don't live up to what you thought they were; finally -- trusting in God or a higher power -- knowing that someone/thing that is infinitely more powerful than you a. loves you and b. will handle the crazy stuff in life so you can relax. just my 2 c's since you asked,haha.
- October 9th, 2008, 09:04 pm
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True happiness is the ability to nurture your inner self. If you can satisfy your inner child, you can be happy. Now, in relation to dating and relationships, the key to happiness has to do with how you react and relate to your partner. If you both have a balanced approach, then I think you will be happy. When one person has misconceptions of the other, than things don't work out. In any case, if the relationship helps nurture each person's inner self, then they will be happy.... does that make sense???








- October 9th, 2008, 09:05 pm
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sometimes I think the key is to keep distance....a lot of distance.
- October 9th, 2008, 09:08 pm
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Simple:


The key to Joy is to be positively surprised.


The key to long term Happiness is to do something you're good at, for a cause that you believe in. A meaningful cause that is bigger than yourself.
- October 9th, 2008, 09:13 pm
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iyampeachy wrote :

Happiness is a simple equation. It is the difference between what you want and what you have. Some have all they need and want and are happy. Others with the same set of circumstances are unhappy. It's all a matter of perspective, choice, realism and the ability to adapt. For me, there is always an upside and I choose to be happy though others in my exact position with my exact set of circumstances may not be.
I agree with this completely. I believe that, for the most part, we are as happy as we choose to be. Of course, certain basics always need to be met. I remember hearing on the radio, some years ago, a retired phycologist that had written a book about the things he had learned over the years. He said that he had noticed that the people that were the happiest were the people that had their NEEDS met and had a FEW of their wants. Among rich people and poor people, the percentages of happy peoplewere much lower.
- October 9th, 2008, 09:53 pm
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For me, happiness is relative. It comes and goes from oneperiod toanother, based on how often I choose to tap into it. I do this by taking the time to give thanks for what I do have, and usually these are not material things.Mostly, I give thanks for the thingsthat I treasure most in my life - health, energy, being centered and aware, work, family and friends. Whenever I take time to reflect on these gifts, I am happy.


These past few months have brought one challenge after another, yet I'm amazed thatduring my lowest times,a bit of happiness will shine through if I seek it.


While I don't know if there's a universal "key" for everyone, I have found that paying attention to all that I haveopens the door to my happiness every time.
- October 9th, 2008, 10:58 pm
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I think Buddha pretty much got it right when it comes to this question
- October 9th, 2008, 11:29 pm
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Peace.
- October 9th, 2008, 11:40 pm
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