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While it's important to know how to light a man's fire, it's equally important to understand what douses his dating flames.
- November 3rd, 2007, 08:06 pm
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Well, speaking as a woman, none of those traits in a male prospect would thrill me, either
- November 4th, 2007, 07:30 am
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This article could have easily been titled "The Top 5 Turnoffs for Anyone". I don't know anyone - male or female - that would be turned on by a flaky, non-communicative, manipulative, demanding mate.
- November 5th, 2007, 04:26 pm
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I want to add another one: Getting on eHarmony as a "single" or "divorced" man and then meeting a woman and casually mentioning that he isn't divorced, she hasn't signed papers and it may be dragged out. Talk about misrepresentation!
- November 9th, 2007, 07:56 pm
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I think these things would be turnoffs for women as well
- December 7th, 2007, 01:24 am
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Right on ! As a woman, I certainly would be turned off with a potential partner displaying any of those traits. And certainly, someone who is not honest and be in the middle of a divorce and casually mention that, is not only misrepresentation but a lie. And, if two people are going to make it, they better be honest.
- December 7th, 2007, 03:16 am
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The second-to-the last and the last reply give the impression that you've dated someone from e-harmony. Do you find that people aren't usually honest about their characteristic traits?
- December 10th, 2007, 07:03 am
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Well, 4 of the first 5 comments are from women. I agree this article cuts both ways. My #1 turnoff is women who are not honest in their photos. # 2 is someone who talks mainly of their problems in life on the first few dates, actually this will probably be a one date person for me. #3 is someone who is not fair, as mentioned in article. #4 is poor communication skills, his can be worked out sometimes so everyone is satisfied. #5 is a women who smothers you, expects all your activities to involve her. I like a woman who has friends to do things with for fun rather than expecting me to provide it all. I guess the most disgusting thing is married folks being in eHarmony but it takes all kinds to make the world! I realize I am not the mainstream eHarmony guy, being 62, no kids, and retired. The younger folks may have a different perspective.
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- December 10th, 2007, 07:57 am
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Women love to "try" to be in control when they all they really want is for a personality to be in control of situations that they do not even want to deal with. They play the silly sex game like they "have shot". Men..WAKE UP!!!
- December 10th, 2007, 02:21 pm
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Well, I'm doomed, I guess. I still expect a man 2 pay 4 a date. I don't expect an expensive date, but if there's expense involved, I expect him 2 pay. I take money just in case he doesn't, but I'll think twice b4 we go out again. I expect a fair amount of his time. "If he's interested, he'll move heaven and earth 2 b w/u", so they say. I want someone who's interested in being w/me. I also give ultimatums. I'm tough, I know. I just don't appreciate someone (male or female) ing me we're gonna get 2gether or talk on the phone 2 get 2 know each other and then continually blow me off. My observance has been, if he doesn't get laid in the 1st couple of dates, oh...my...gosh. I don't get any of his....ahem, time. What a crock. I ask y? Y is it so wrong 4 someone 2 have this expectation that getting their needs met by this boyfriend is demanding? Do u want 2 be w/me or not? If not, take a number. My 17+ yrs of single parenting has made me into a get-r-done sorta woman. All these mind reading games I have 2 play w/men just 2 hold onto someone is quite frankly exhausting. What ever happened 2 just getting 2 b myself? My male friends all think I'm great and I get asked out all the time...by married men. They find my direct, no nonsense approach 2 relationships exhilirating. So maybe I missed my calling as a homewrecker? Naw, I ain't gonna do that. But c'mon now. Is chivalry really dead? My idea of a real man is the one who pays 4 a date, and puts his money where his mouth is. If he says he's gonna call, he actually calls. If he says we're gonna do this that or the other, we actually do it. And pay 4 my time with him with sex? Not this chicky poo. I'll hold out 4 a real man. Like I said, according 2 this article, I'm screwed.
- December 10th, 2007, 06:34 pm
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