Well, I'm doomed, I guess. I still expect a man 2 pay 4 a date. I don't expect an expensive date, but if there's expense involved, I expect him 2 pay. I take money just in case he doesn't, but I'll think twice b4 we go out again. I expect a fair amount of his time. "If he's interested, he'll move heaven and earth 2 b w/u", so they say. I want someone who's interested in being w/me. I also give ultimatums. I'm tough, I know. I just don't appreciate someone (male or female) ing me we're gonna get 2gether or talk on the phone 2 get 2 know each other and then continually blow me off. My observance has been, if he doesn't get laid in the 1st couple of dates, oh...my...gosh. I don't get any of his....ahem, time. What a crock. I ask y? Y is it so wrong 4 someone 2 have this expectation that getting their needs met by this boyfriend is demanding? Do u want 2 be w/me or not? If not, take a number. My 17+ yrs of single parenting has made me into a get-r-done sorta woman. All these mind reading games I have 2 play w/men just 2 hold onto someone is quite frankly exhausting. What ever happened 2 just getting 2 b myself? My male friends all think I'm great and I get asked out all the time...by married men. They find my direct, no nonsense approach 2 relationships exhilirating. So maybe I missed my calling as a homewrecker? Naw, I ain't gonna do that. But c'mon now. Is chivalry really dead? My idea of a real man is the one who pays 4 a date, and puts his money where his mouth is. If he says he's gonna call, he actually calls. If he says we're gonna do this that or the other, we actually do it. And pay 4 my time with him with sex? Not this chicky poo. I'll hold out 4 a real man. Like I said, according 2 this article, I'm screwed.