The Top 5 Male Turnoffs

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kjbonline is offline kjbonline Post #81  December 20,2007, 5:51pm
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To Beloved... You lost me at 2,4,6,8 u want 2 find some1 2 treat u gr8. U r sabotaging urself with this ridiculous writing style. Not only is it not cute, it's incredibly difficult 2 read. If want u want is 2 find the right man and build a life 2gether, write normally b4 u drive ur matches up a wall. I don't even get it... it actually takes longer 2 type the way u do -- and frankly, ur message gets lost in translation.
 
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KrazyKatLady is offline KrazyKatLady Post #82  December 20,2007, 6:09pm
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It seems like there's a lot of comments about who pays. I think it depends a lot on people's jobs and incomes. I personally feel the first few dates should be on the man. If he doesn't have much money, things can be adjusted to his finances. Like having a picnic/hike or an afternoon movie. Meet for a glass of wine or a coffee. I barely make above minimal income and I've met many equally financially challenged men (arty intellectuals tend to be very poor)and I have had to provide transportation and finances, food, and care packages now to the point that I am ready for a change and would like to be wined and dined for a while.
 
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larryk is offline larryk Post #83  December 20,2007, 6:10pm
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i agree with most of the article and comments.. and i DO respect that woman offer to help for dates, but by NO means do i resent it, or expect it, or even wish for it! why??? because at this point, i ONLY am willing to date women who are divorced and have kids. i'm not interested in a woman who has never been married, or has never had kids... bad experiences with both, considering i am divorced and have children. AND for the most part (i KNOW there are exceptions), women with children in situations where they have primary custody, have ALOT more expenses in their lives than i do, so i feel VERY GOOD about paying for the entire date every single time.... just my way i guess.... MERRY CHRISTMAS to ALL... larry
 
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brneyedgrl is offline brneyedgrl Post #84  December 20,2007, 6:12pm
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I agree that these "turn off's" work for both sexes. I do, however, expect for a man who asks me for a date to pay! He asked! If I asked him over for dinner at my home should he expect to pay for half of the groceries? If a man is not financially able to take me to a movie or out to dinner, than plan a picnic lunch or some free activity. I'd rather have someone be honest and trust me to understand than to ask me to go somewhere he can not or is not willing to pay. If he is "the guy", I'm game!
 
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OSoloMio is offline OSoloMio Post #85  December 20,2007, 6:12pm
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Sheesh. Maybe it is just that the day has been busy and has finished me off, but reading the article makes me want to take a break from dating!
 
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yankinmiss is offline yankinmiss Post #86  December 20,2007, 6:16pm
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I agree with all of the above, but this is nothing new. I already knew all of that, and it is all common sense and good manners. What ever happened with being direct, being real, and being plain old simply honest and a good person? Share the cost, everyone struggles at one time or the other and just be you, really you, because if you are not real, then you do not deserve a good person and ultimately you are hurting yourself the most.
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munchie is offline munchie Post #87  December 20,2007, 6:20pm
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I feel that these days both sex's should take turns paying. On first dates each should pay for their own, until they get to know each other. Communication and being on time is absolute necessary.
 
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9mangos is offline 9mangos Post #88  December 20,2007, 6:39pm
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Hmmmmm, perhaps the ladies that have been posting should think about what the men on this service are up against. For example: we start out answering extremely personal questions to people who won't even post a picture! When we send out the photo nudge, the lady stops communication. We finally get through to the "open communication stage", and we get two line responses full of "4 this and 2 that". If we get through that and actually make a date, the lady will usually let you pay for the first couple of dates. Then you won't hear from her again. I am sure that the ladies who took the time to post here are on the up and up, but we men have to deal with alot of you who are not. Perhaps we get tired of getting "used and abused" also, and we have our defense mechanisms as well. For those of us who are old enough to know better, any one of the habits mentioned in the article won't send us running, but two or more together would sure make me think I was dating a "shark".
 
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southerninlife is offline southerninlife Post #89  December 20,2007, 6:44pm
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I think the 5 turn-offs are true whether you are a man or woman. I've have met a lot of really nice guys online,who I'm still friends with, but weren't matches. However, I've met a few who didn't quite tell the whole truth, and I'm tired of guys who aren't really ready to start dating or the jerks who using certain dating sites as a meat market.

I think the expense of dating should be shared. Especially at first. Most guys are paying child support and dating can be expensive. Let him pay for dinner and offer to pay the tip or the before or after drinks. That way you can do more things together and find out if you are compatible sooner! And always be flexible if either one of you have kids. They come first. Just the way it is.
 
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LaffsAlot1976 is offline LaffsAlot1976 Post #90  December 20,2007, 6:47pm
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I think these are very valid points not just in a dating relationship, but for friendships in general (guys & girls).
 
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