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isis1980 is offline isis1980 Post #881  April 29,2010, 9:48am
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I think that if you want a guy who will pursue you hard and pay for the dates (which, in my opinion, is the honorable thing to do barring any obvious lack of $ situations), then you should hold out for that! There are great guys out there who are chivalrous (did I spell that right?) My boyfriend would love to help me clean if it means he'd be with me. Now that's the kind of guy we want, ladies! And let me tell you, they're out there. And they're NOT all married already . . . It will be better than you imagined . . . And I think that paying absolutely IS part of the pursuing. It's telling a woman that she is worth spending money on, that she's worth what it will cost you financially (within reason, of course) to pay for going out with her. It makes a woman feel cherished, prescious, and of great worth. Even if you don't think you'll continue to date her it's respectful to treat her with respect. Once you're in a serious relationship, the girl should insist on paying for some stuff. Very few men have an income that is bottomless . . .
I can imagine how good it feels to have a man like that. I would love a man that show that much value in me. I've had a glimpsed of what it feels like to be wined and dined and pursued. Let me tell you it feels soo good. You feel so feminine and pretty. I think all women should want this kind of man.
 
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lisa21 is offline lisa21 Post #882  April 29,2010, 4:16pm
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i am sick of these stupid ads on eharmony about some loser not calling his girl, what the hell is this site all about anyway? why are women hurting desperate so bad to meet someone? sorry i just had to vent about these stupid ads!!!
 
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Why does this article completely talk just about personality traits??? I am heavily into fitness and I think appearance is really important as probably most men do. That can be a deal breaker too. You can tell this article is for the clueless. And yes dudes look at the photo.. The heavier you are statically your chances of finding a date go down. In my opinion and probably many mans opinion appearance is very important...
 
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And to have the guy constantly buying you things you have to be the type of women who is desired. Alot of what women expect out of the man is unrealistic. Unless your a great catch you probably won't have the man doing all that for you. And a great catch is really rare. At least to me
 
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All I am going to say is what do you have to offer the guy for him to be chiverals. If you a hottie then I can see alot of men bending over backwards for you. But if your out of shape and overweight/ overfat less guys will be into you. Focus on fixing your appearce so the guy desires you. Appearance can totally be a dealbreaker for many men. Ususally for me In the first 5 mins I can tell if there is a physical attraction. The first thing we see is your appearance just like its the first thing you see in us.
 
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If your like that you would be a great catch.. Guys like girls that are fair with the money.. Shows when you get married you will be fair in that too.. Sounds like a good thing to me. And money isn't everything to you.
 
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Perfectly Fair??? I will give an example of what is not fair on a date that happened to me.

I went out on a date that I was asked out on it was supposed to be just for a drink the girl said she was hungry and ordered two main course salads and two starters because she said she could not make her mind up which ones to have, took a bite from each dish then the salads and starters just sat there at the end she asked for a box for each and said that her sister was going to love the salad. She sat there when the bill came so I picked it up and paid for the date which was her idea in the first place, after I paid she then said maybe she should order some cheesecake to go, thankfully the waiter was dragging his feet and it took too long so we left.
She asked you out, so she should have paid for all that stuff.

No way would I pay in that situation:
1. She invited you.
2. The pretense was it was going to be just a drink.
3. She was ordering stuff to stock her fridge, not to eat then, like she had won a shopping spree.

How many red flags do you need?

If it had been me, I would have loved seeing the look on her face when I told her the check was hers.
 
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Great article!
 
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Fair? Women should be courted. Men are traditionally the providers and the breadwinners. There are time honored and culturally justified reasons for guys paying the gal's way. It's not fair to expect women to pay for their half. This isn't a business deal. It's a courtship.
If the guy is committing to a relationship, he pays her way, holds her doors, shows that he values her and respects her simply because she is a lady.
The art of being a gentleman has fallen into disrepute, perhaps, but that makes it no less important. It's not machismo. It's not sexism. It's the fact that women deserve to be treated like ladies. Regardless of their careers or personal views, women should always be treated like ladies. It is a man's duty to be a gentleman in all things.
By expecting her to meet you halfway, you're telling her that you're not investing anything into her. You might as well be hanging out with one of the guys. If you pay her way, you're indicating that you find her worth your time and money. Being a gentleman, you let her know that she is under no obligation because of your interest.  You're letting her know that even if she declines your courtship, she is respected and valued.
Women deserve to be cherished. Men deserve the chance to be gentlemen. Is that so hard to accept in this day and age? It's not about the money. It's about setting the boundaries and cutting through the ambiguous garbage that makes so many relationships into emotional trainwrecks. It might seem silly to be formal about things, but it is a bedrock foundation for long-term relationships. Be serious about things. Life's too short to do it wrong.
 
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Thanks Butterat for your input! Nice surprise that there is someone else that believes in chivalry...very hard to find that!
 
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