The Top 5 Male Turnoffs

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LocalSEO is offline LocalSEO Post #871  February 5,2010, 11:13pm
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for me the biggest turnoff is when a man smokes! gee!
 
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funman67 is offline funman67 Post #872  February 13,2010, 5:27am
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Ok, you are assuming the woman gives a damn!!!  I have found if she is flayky, she is as best quoted in a movie..."is not interested".  How many times have you encountered, "I had a great time, call me.", only to call and get texted, "now is not a good time for me", or she doesn't even return a call or text?  Give me a break, if you are not interested have the guts/cahooneys, chi-chis, etc. to say it.  Texting I will call you and never calling a guy is beyond flakiness.  It is downright RUDE, especially after telling him, "I am not like that and you will always know where you stand with me."  Girls, be real and honest and you might just meet a real and honest guy one day.  We still do exist!!!
 
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Turn off, woman that make everything about them. Notice,"The Top 5 Male Turnoffs" is the title.
 
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speck is offline speck Post #874  February 24,2010, 11:35pm
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men are great and easy to please. they have trouble with EGO. what makes a guy think that my friend,,,who is drop dead georgous, like victoria secret, would ever date or talk to THEM! they deserve a knock down. where as - me- am also georgous, but in a girl next door way, and they never even notice me when were out.
 so then men are asking us to be flakey or weird to get noticed. not me...i'd rather be ignored till ONE  of them, notice me .
comn' guys wake-up, talk to her not so glamours friend -first! you might have a chance after that!!
just a hint for you all! girls too!  
 
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FairIsFair is offline FairIsFair Post #875  March 18,2010, 5:39pm
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Turnoff #3: Not playing fair From your initial encounter to your first date and beyond, guys pay attention to whether or not you’re playing fair. If, for example, you always expect the guy to come to your side of town, pick you up, open your door, pay the check, drop you off, call you the next day, and in general placate your every need without you so much as lifting a finger, you’re not dating fairly. More important, if there’s a disagreement and you don’t fight fairly, i.e., you throw things in his face, hold grudges, and insist on winning every argument, you’re going to be a very lonely single girl because you’re not being fair. In the new millennium, chivalry goes both ways and the dating game requires plenty of give-and-take. If you can be fair in dating times both good and bad, guys will dig you so much more!
You might imagine that this is high on my list . . .
 
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inventype1 is offline inventype1 Post #876  April 18,2010, 2:26pm
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To me the number one turn off is lack of personal care in a woman, if she does not look clean, smell clean or looks sloppy it means that she is like that most of the time or she does not care much about me.
 
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TruBrit27 is offline TruBrit27 Post #877  April 29,2010, 5:18am
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Turnoff #3: Not playing fair
This one should be at the top on a pedestal all on its own, it is so spot on that I had to read it three times.
It gets really boring immediately when girls act like this in fact I get turned off in a split second when I hear girls quote things like the man should always pay and women should always be wined dined and spoilt.
Another thing that bugs the hell out of me is when you date a girl that is not only wealthy but makes a yearly fortune wage packet but wants the very best but will never pay or treat for one thing her self instead has the attitude that any man dating a wealthy women is lucky and should pay....How the hell does that benefit any man I would rather date and pay for 'everything' a poor girl that bakes me an apple pie every-now and then but is full of affection and sweet. 
 
The other type is the girl that does not have two cents to rub together but states she likes the finer things in life; these types act like they are the only female on the planet.
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Perfectly Fair??? I will give an example of what is not fair on a date that happened to me.

I went out on a date that I was asked out on it was supposed to be just for a drink the girl said she was hungry and ordered two main course salads and two starters because she said she could not make her mind up which ones to have, took a bite from each dish then the salads and starters just sat there at the end she asked for a box for each and said that her sister was going to love the salad. She sat there when the bill came so I picked it up and paid for the date which was her idea in the first place, after I paid she then said maybe she should order some cheesecake to go, thankfully the waiter was dragging his feet and it took too long so we left.

After reeling from shock from the fact she ordered two salads and starters one for her sister at home and had me pay she said lets go to the coffee shop next door, so I figured why not I will give her a chance to save the date and put the meal down to a first date chivalry.

We went up to the counter I do not drink coffee so I stood at one end while she was ordering she then came walking over to me and stood there the waitress from behind the counter said that will be $4.95 the girl just stood there and made no effort for her bag....I paid

That is not only not playing fair its classless and unattractive and by the way she was an attorney with her own practice and had spent the whole night going on about her new car and how well she does..

S if you really like a guy play fair or order nothing, and for the record I think her photos were about 10 years old another no no...
 
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TruBrit27 wrote :
Perfectly Fair??? I will give an example of what is not fair on a date that happened to me.
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Omg! This is disgusting and she should be ashamed of herself!!!! I hate dealing with people like that. I'm sorry you had to deal with her. You're a much kinder and more generous person than I because I don't think I would have been able to hide my disgust.
 
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Here's a few bad ones. (1) We meet for dinner or a late nite snack and she's brought a friend along and expects me to pay for both of them. (2) She refuses to sit close to you when you're at someone's home seated on a sofa. (3) She constantly brings up the previous abusive or ill-mannered ex (Greg did that! Don't you ever do that!). Trust me! If she talks about how the last guy hit her there's a better than 50% chance that you'll soon learn how she provoked him (No, I'm not advocating hitting women BUT there's 2 sides to every story). (4) She breaks the date with you at the last minute using friends or relatives as an excuse. If this happenes more than once, dump her!
 
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