The Top 5 Male Turnoffs

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technokat is offline technokat Post #501  March 25,2008, 10:43am
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Bedeet,44080 wrote :
when there is a strong physical attraction those traits are overlooked for awhile and even cute for some 1 - if you are too available it's noticeable 2 - many men marry foreign women just so they don't have to talk much, and the may - december scenario is another example of less communications and things in common working out for the man 3 - a woman being a witch is a bigger conquer for a man 4 - many of my male friends are with the woman that changed them for the better!!! I hear it, i always did this until she came along and cared. (ie. i eat better, excercise etc..) 5 - i have seen them work more often than not devils' advocate
I totally agree with your first point. Many people will compromise everything they claim to "believe" if they think they are in love with the person. They will change their "rules" for people they are interested in, yet remember them for the ones they don't find attractive enough. However, those folks tend to enter relationships that do not last.

I find your comment about men marrying foreign women quite curious. I have a couple of single male friends who date many women from all over, but claim to fall in love only with foreign women--and it would appear they do so at the drop of a hat. I cannot understand the draw to these particular ladies (again, only from the standpoint of having met these particular people), and I have yet to meet one who is kind, warm, considerate and caring. I think many foreign men and women are genuine and considerate, but it seems that they are not the ones who get the dates, at least with the men who claim instant attraction to the foreign types.

I do not wish to stereotype, but it seems that a lot of men are interested in the type of woman who will make heads turn when they are together yet who does not seem to care about them for any other reason than to get attention from them. All men do not follow these top 5 rules. And I think it is true that most PEOPLE who care about themselves would not put up with narcissistic, rude and obnoxious behavior. It seems that a lot of people who are dating out there just want attention, but truly do not care about doing what's right for them. Perhaps it should be said that the dating world is made up of people who are interested in many types of experiences. The difficult part is finding someone who wants what you want. I say learn to develop a sense of who is in it for the same reasons you are, and drop the ones who are not. Stop trying to figure out what's wrong with you and what you do and start realizing who you should be seeking. Chances are, you don't know yourself as well as you thought you did.
 
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1. Crazy stalker girls... you know who you are and I really don't need to explain myself :P

2. Girls who don't have anything to talk about... they bore me to death

3. Girls with that stuck-up attitude... Wait actually these are fun for me to tease to death lol

4. Girls who try to control my life and want to know what I am doing at every hour of the day (AND NIGHT)... Maybe this falls into the first category lol

5. The last thing I can't stand is when communication and sharing is ONLY a one-way street... Sorry but it REALLY doesn't work that way... and DO NOT try to mooch off me either...
 
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Ladies, remember this article is titled "Top Ten Male Turn Offs". I'll bet 90% of men agree, and 90% of women feel the same about men.'Nough said? That aside someone wrote about getting married too quickly, my ex-wife tried to change me, and I went along because I was in love, some of these changes I made and am better for, But others kept me from being the man she married. She divorced me 4 years into our marriage because I couldnt change to her likings. Just one piece of advice, if the problem is not something you can live with, then you probably wont be able to live with that man. I do believe if in your heart you really love someone there shouldn't be any questions when you marry. Lastly, I hope for all your own sake, you watch out for scammers. I am currently messaging with a woman and believe she(or he?) Is trying to scam me. Unfortunately it can even happen on E-Harmony. Good luck to y'all
 
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Gem,39302 wrote :
Well, speaking as a woman, none of those traits in a male prospect would thrill me, either
The opinion seems to be unanimous: These negative traits are applicable to both genders. Saying that these things are undesirable with only one gender isn't a fair statement.
 
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Excellent advice. Thanks for sharing.
 
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tchr4jesus,39655 wrote :
I want to add another one: Getting on eHarmony as a "single" or "divorced" man and then meeting a woman and casually mentioning that he isn't divorced, she hasn't signed papers and it may be dragged out. Talk about misrepresentation!
This JUST happened to me. What the heck?????
 
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Sappfrank, scammers are all over the place...

Actually I think scammers are on my pet peeve AND top turnoff list lol

 
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whatthebleep is offline whatthebleep Post #508  March 27,2008, 4:17pm
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I don't understand MEN!
 
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SubStream is offline SubStream Post #509  March 29,2008, 11:01pm
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Amen to this article. The person who wrote this should run for president. Enough said.

-R. J.
 
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miaxo is offline miaxo Post #510  March 29,2008, 11:23pm
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To BELOVED... I personally love when a man treats me or "spoils" me to a great, well planned evening. I in turn will spoil him as well after a few dates. I too am a single mother of two teenagers, but only for a short time. I love men that are chivalrous and old school. In fact if a guy wants to go dutch on the first date that's fine, that tells me a lot about him, even if he's "testing me" to me that's playing games and I'm not into to that crap, so I won't see him again, no matter how much I may have liked him. I don't need a man like that, I've been down that road too many times. You are smart for being picky or do you have a chip on your shoulder or both? Get out there and take some chances or you will never find Mr. Right!
 
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