The Top 5 Male Turnoffs

And yet, like me, in print and probably too in other social situations, you are articulate, bright, etc. I struggle with this every time I break down and decide to date (which, unpleasantly for some of us, seems to be the most reasonable means of finding a partner). And our awkwardness, no doubt, our lack of fluency in that particular situation, probably seems like some or other characteristic on our dates' Top 5 Turnoffs list, whereas in reality, if we were already in the relationship we would be fine, lovely, calm, self-assured, glib, and enchanting!

Aaargh.It'ssohardtodateifyoudon'thavethedatinggene .Iamsurethat'cold,''repressed,''insecure,'and'inar ticulate'makemanypeople'sTurnofflists,but thats only how I seem on a date, with a stranger, not how I am in either my heart or in my normal life. With me, and it sounds like with you, what people get on a first date is not what our friends see, nor what a romantic partner would once a relationship is established. I mean, it is fairly absurd to be sitting down with strangers in hopes of ascertaining whether or not they are people you couldatthatpointstill imagine sharing toothpaste with, let alone common dreams. So I suppose one of my Top 5 Female Turnoffs is a date unwilling to take seriously my caveats about how unspeakably lame I'll seem at our first meeting and to keep in mind what he already knows about me from my writing and give me a darned second chance. Sadly, it seems too often to conflict withtheTop5MaleTurnoffofBeingaCompleteDorkWhenAske dReasonableandSensibleQuestions!

Drat!

Well, I'm doomed, I guess. I still expect a man 2 pay 4 a date. I don't expect an expensive date, but if there's expense involved, I expect him 2 pay. I take money just in case he doesn't, but I'll think twice b4 we go out again. I expect a fair amount of his time. "If he's interested, he'll move heaven and earth 2 b w/u", so they say. I want someone who's interested in being w/me. I also give ultimatums. I'm tough, I know. I just don't appreciate someone (male or female) ing me we're gonna get 2gether or talk on the phone 2 get 2 know each other and then continually blow me off. My observance has been, if he doesn't get laid in the 1st couple of dates, oh...my...gosh. I don't get any of his....ahem, time. What a crock. I ask y? Y is it so wrong 4 someone 2 have this expectation that getting their needs met by this boyfriend is demanding? Do u want 2 be w/me or not? If not, take a number. My 17+ yrs of single parenting has made me into a get-r-done sorta woman. All these mind reading games I have 2 play w/men just 2 hold onto someone is quite frankly exhausting. What ever happened 2 just getting 2 b myself? My male friends all think I'm great and I get asked out all the time...by married men. They find my direct, no nonsense approach 2 relationships exhilirating. So maybe I missed my calling as a homewrecker? Naw, I ain't gonna do that. But c'mon now. Is chivalry really dead? My idea of a real man is the one who pays 4 a date, and puts his money where his mouth is. If he says he's gonna call, he actually calls. If he says we're gonna do this that or the other, we actually do it. And pay 4 my time with him with sex? Not this chicky poo. I'll hold out 4 a real man. Like I said, according 2 this article, I'm screwed.

Well, I'm doomed, I guess. I still expect a man 2 pay 4 a date. I don't expect an expensive date, but if there's expense involved, I expect him 2 pay. I take money just in case he doesn't, but I'll think twice b4 we go out again. I expect a fair amount of his time. "If he's interested, he'll move heaven and earth 2 b w/u", so they say. I want someone who's interested in being w/me. I also give ultimatums. I'm tough, I know. I just don't appreciate someone (male or female) ing me we're gonna get 2gether or talk on the phone 2 get 2 know each other and then continually blow me off. My observance has been, if he doesn't get laid in the 1st couple of dates, oh...my...gosh. I don't get any of his....ahem, time. What a crock. I ask y? Y is it so wrong 4 someone 2 have this expectation that getting their needs met by this boyfriend is demanding? Do u want 2 be w/me or not? If not, take a number. My 17+ yrs of single parenting has made me into a get-r-done sorta woman. All these mind reading games I have 2 play w/men just 2 hold onto someone is quite frankly exhausting. What ever happened 2 just getting 2 b myself? My male friends all think I'm great and I get asked out all the time...by married men. They find my direct, no nonsense approach 2 relationships exhilirating. So maybe I missed my calling as a homewrecker? Naw, I ain't gonna do that. But c'mon now. Is chivalry really dead? My idea of a real man is the one who pays 4 a date, and puts his money where his mouth is. If he says he's gonna call, he actually calls. If he says we're gonna do this that or the other, we actually do it. And pay 4 my time with him with sex? Not this chicky poo. I'll hold out 4 a real man. Like I said, according 2 this article, I'm screwed.