Close Match: The "Other" option


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BrownEyedGirlOC is offline BrownEyedGirlOC Post #1  October 7,2008, 11:09pm
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If I'm not interested in a match based on their picture, as in I'm not attracted to them physically, I opt for the "Other" choice because I don't want to hurt their feelings. Is it better to be honest or to say "Other"? Please don't flame me for being honest.
 
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I do the same thing, if i'm not attracted, i dont recall there being a "i dont think you're physically attractive to me" option (well in nicer words than my own)... so i put other for those guys.
 
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No. Don't worry about it. I get a lot of scammers personally& I usually close them as "Other" because I don't want to say that due to statements in their profile I'm doing so because I don't want them polishing up their profile & maybe mislead some other unsuspecting person. If they live too far away, just put the physical difference is too great, but if you're not attracted to them, I see no reason NOT to use "Other"; I do all the time & I'm sure there's many that do the same to me. I just don't worry about it...you don't know these people & they sure don't know you, so don't stress about it. Whenever I get closed anymore, it just doesn't phase me, for whatever reason they close it, because there's too many other people out there to get bogged down with one person not wanting to get to know you. It's not bad, it is what it is, that's just the way things go. Good luck!
 
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i hate to hurt other people's feelings when i close them so, i usually use "distance" as the reason, although 99% of the time it is true since most of my matches live over 400 miles away. i really don't think that the people who get rejected care if they got rejected since most of them don't even bother with "one last message". had they opted to use that, i probably would reconsider.


as for the .001 % of my matches that actually come from my town, if their profile sounds decent, i'll use the "too much going on in my life" excuse. if their profile sounds lame or uppity, i use the "distance" reason. =0))
 
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WhY are we worrying about hurting each other's feelings? They don't know us from Adam's housecat! And they surely wouldn't think twice about closing you for the same reason. Just sayin'...
 
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honesty is the best policy people! when i get closed out due to "other" i always assume it's becasue of lack of attraction but i'm fine with it. just today, i got a message from a total stranger 2 towns away on facebook who wrote me a nice compliment. oh yeah, i also realize that other can mean "too short" lol!!!!!!! i've learned to be cool with that as well, it ain't changin any time soon.
 
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kibbie,286402 wrote :


WhY are we worrying about hurting each other's feelings? They don't know us from Adam's housecat! And they surely wouldn't think twice about closing you for the same reason. Just sayin'...


tho these matches maybe strangers that we'll never meet, i just don't like the idea of reducingthese peopleto the level ofjust a mere bar code.
 
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LonelyStarState,286441 wrote :

kibbie,286402 wrote :


WhY are we worrying about hurting each other's feelings? They don't know us from Adam's housecat! And they surely wouldn't think twice about closing you for the same reason. Just sayin'...


tho these matches maybe strangers that we'll never meet, i just don't like the idea of reducingthese peopleto the level ofjust a mere bar code.

Ok then, just say I don't feel the chemistry is there...they'll get the picture.
 
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I've used "other" a couple of times. Once for a match that was 8'8" tall and the other was 7'9" tall... what the???
 
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sandradee84,286374 wrote :

I do the same thing, if i'm not attracted, i dont recall there being a "i dont think you're physically attractive to me" option (well in nicer words than my own)... so i put other for those guys.
Just curious SandraDee, on the flipside do you assume the same if you are closed with the "Other" option by your matches?
 
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