Dr. Viveca J. Sheppard and her colleagues at James Madison University studied cheaters. In a nutshell, once a cheater always a cheater asGr8Guyn2008 succinctly put.
the rational side of me says 'once a cheater, always a cheater' however, the reality of it is that being human, we've all made bad choices before so, i think they deserve at least one chance.
after that, i'm taking her house, her car, the kids, the dog and cat
The operative word is former: yes I would date a former cheater, just like I would marry a man who was once married and now divorced. Do I think that once divorced always a divorcer? No. We all can make mistakes and we can all change our ways. All of us are formerly something, something that we are probably not too proud of. So why single out one out of a list of hundreds and hundreds of way we f*** up?
I believe that once a divorcee always a divorcee. The stats bear this out. Second marriages have a much lower probability of success than the first. The longer someone was married before getting divorced the more suspect they are in my eyes.
I think both the cheater and divorcee is capable of learning from their past mistakes. I know that RRoland is right: the chances of a second marriage succeeding are big time low.
what does divorce have to do with cheating? What does the duration of the marriage have to do with cheating? I am confused as to what the linkage is here...
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