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vrcarrington wrote :
Once when I was a teenager I shoplifted. Got caught. I've NEVER done it again. Once a shoplifter always a shoplifter? I don't think so. Would I steal food if my kids were starving and I had no money? Maybe. But I am not a thief. When I was a young adult I got drunk - many times. Did I get caught or in serious trouble? No. But I did get sick. Now I don't drink at all. Once a drunk, always a drunk? I don't think so.

Personal experience though, makes me frightened of those who see things so black and white (once a cheater, always a cheater).

People do change, learn and grow.

However you're in charge of only one person. YOU. Be moral, honest and trustworthy. .
More power to ya sister! I agree wholeheartedly. I find it sad how many people are so ready to throw the baby out with the bath water! Pretty much of life is grey, but especially where divorce is concerned. I'm 43 and prefer to date men my age and older. Hello! Most of them are divorced - sometimes a couple of times over. Assumptions make an a$$ of you and me. People really need to chill out.....
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Mokkesofie wrote :
When a man divorces his wife and marries his mistress, he leaves a vacancy.
The same principle enunciated above applies to FEMALES also.


I am 100% sure you inadvertantly forgot that.
- July 6th, 2009, 05:03 pm
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I think the key word here is date. Yes, I would date a former cheater, but dating someone does not imply that I will remain committed to them if, during the course of my dating, I find out that the person is cheating again. This would give me some time to judge whether or not the person has truly changed.
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should you date a form cheater? now the key word is date nothing more. this to each own judgement but i say they deserve another try in some cases.
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I dated a former cheater a few times but realized pretty quickly that, as much as I would agree he deserved a second chance,if I were to marry him, I would be watching him like a hawk twenty-four/seven. After having been married to a man I could trust implicitly, there's no way I would live with distrust in a marriage. Way too tiring, if you ask me. Besides, i found that he didn't even trust himself. He couldn't even kiss me without looking over his shoulder, as if he was doing something wrong.
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It would maybe depend on their answer to the question on why they cheated.

If they blame anything outside themselves, I wouldn't. If they blamed themselves and seemed baggage-y about it I wouldn't. You know, I think overall I would avoid someone that has cheated other than a casual friendship. The real problem is finding out if they have cheated. People generally aren't too open about something like that.
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