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I won't and I don't. In fact, I only add people that I truly know and am close to on my FB. I'm not one of those "friends collector" and I don't see a point in adding a stranger, somebody that I know but hardly, somebody that I was never friends with and never will be etc etc etc. Believe it or not, my friends list has less than 100 people and not more than 60 people as we are speaking. I take my privacy and online safety very seriously
- July 2nd, 2009, 02:08 am
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lol.....ahhhhhhh, ok it's outta my system. it's similar to myspace. wait a minute, you do realize that you're on the net right now & can just find out for yourself right? the weird thing about facebook is that people put their full name, where they went to school, work & who they hang out with out there for all to see. i don't do that on my page though, it seems like somewhat of a BAD idea...yeaaaaaaaah. so are you a noob to computers or the net or boards or what? there's certainly nothing wrong with being new! yall are all bright & shiny, not like us grisled, jaded folk who've been on since '94ish using aol to get online with a 14.4 modem WOOT WOOT


oh, trust me, I've been around...just not on discussion boads since 1994! Yes I remember aol, dial-up, paying way to much for so little...never heard it called "facebook". And yes, I know I could have Googled the word, but it was late, and I was tired.


And to be totally honest, I never thought anyone would be so careless as to put all their personal info out there. I'm assuming they are young, and perhaps don't have that much to lose anyway! (No offense to the younger generation...) Or perhaps they are just not as jaded as us old folks?![/quote]


actually you CAN put your profile on facebook to private where only your friends can see, also you can put it to where only certain people can only see a little bit of your profile and not the whole thing. also facebook is not just or even mostly young people, it started as a site for college students (just like myspace was directed for High School students.) considering that you can also find over 30 somethings on the site as well...
- July 2nd, 2009, 06:56 am
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As the previous poster said, MySpace was made for High School kids and Facebook was made for College adults. As someone way past those two categories AND someone deeply involved with technology (my occupation) I just don't get it. To me Facebook is all about "look at me everyone, I exist, please give me some attention, I need you to know about me". I am far from an old foggie but I just don't get blasting to the world everything about yourself. To me it seems immature. To keep up with friends why not call them, visit them, email them? Technology has made it so easy for people to communicate but it seems that it has gotten to the point where people would rather put up a billboard on the internet rather than write something as simple as a personal email.

p.s. When I discover one of my dates has a Facebook page I generally consider it a negative mark against them. Perhaps not a big mark but none-the-less similar to observing they exhibit immature behavior or they are not good communicators. Not a deal breaker but something I don't look at as a plus.
- July 2nd, 2009, 02:47 pm
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Wow, I am a little taken by this conversation.

Facebook is AMAZING!! For somebody who has moved countries I can keep up with my high school friends (I know over 30 girls since we were 3 years old!!). It is SO nice to see their kids and family and keep up without breaking the bank with phone calls!!

Also, for people who travel, I love getting their pictures WHILE they are still traveling!!. I mean instead of going and seeing 300 pictures on one sitting I get them spoon-fed 30 a day!!

Many of my friends have moved and many change cell#s and e-mail addresses. It is so convenient to update 10 of your really good friends about weekend plans and see who can join you than playing phone tag with all of them. When you loose your phone you can send a meesage out and be like "send me your number please!", and you will be forever grateful .

I am friends in FB with some of the great people in eAdvice and I have gotten to learn more about them, and I think that is very nice. Of course I do not have my last name posted, I do not have my address, etc and I have my profile somewhat hidden, so unless you KNOW me, you really cannot find me.

I do agree, if you are just casually dating somebody I won't add them, but I also would not look down on anybody who has a FB account. The only reason I did get it was because school OBLIGED me to get it (all our graduate events were done through it), so I had no option. Afterwards it became and addiction and now it is just past-time.

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- July 2nd, 2009, 03:07 pm
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As the previous poster said, MySpace was made for High School kids and Facebook was made for College adults. As someone way past those two categories AND someone deeply involved with technology (my occupation) I just don't get it. To me Facebook is all about "look at me everyone, I exist, please give me some attention, I need you to know about me". I am far from an old foggie but I just don't get blasting to the world everything about yourself. To me it seems immature. To keep up with friends why not call them, visit them, email them? Technology has made it so easy for people to communicate but it seems that it has gotten to the point where people would rather put up a billboard on the internet rather than write something as simple as a personal email.

p.s. When I discover one of my dates has a Facebook page I generally consider it a negative mark against them. Perhaps not a big mark but none-the-less similar to observing they exhibit immature behavior or they are not good communicators. Not a deal breaker but something I don't look at as a plus.
Some people, myself in included, have FB pages for reason that have absolutely nothing to do with immaturity and poor communication. It is for practical reasons.

1) Folks in my profession relocate a lot, but a significant amount of business is done in the social realm; the old "who you know" sort of thing. It is far easier to keep this "work life" circle updated and informed on FB than sending out endless one-on-one e-mails, which most of us simply don't like to deal with the schedules and workloads we keep.

2) And, I have an extremely large family that is spread out over 10 states and 3 nations, believe me, FB and Skype has done wonders for keeping us connected to what is going on within our expansive clan, instead of relying our aging parents and snail mail.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:08 pm
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The last two posters make good points. My limited experience though with FB showed a number of people posting things your really don't want the rest of the world to see and haven't taken any precautions to make the info available only to their friends and family.

Anyhow...my bad for not recognizing the good aspect of it and only hammering the bad side.

FYI, I use LinkedIn for professional stuff since that is a site for profession contact info rather than social.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:30 pm
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p.s. When I discover one of my dates has a Facebook page I generally consider it a negative mark against them. Perhaps not a big mark but none-the-less similar to observing they exhibit immature behavior or they are not good communicators. Not a deal breaker but something I don't look at as a plus.
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FYI, I use LinkedIn for professional stuff since that is a site for profession contact info rather than social.
Yes, I use LinkedIn as well. It's strictly a professional network, absolutely nothing social about it, lots of senior managers, or folks who can hire me or I can hire them; it's very much buttoned-down. I use FB for professional peers; it is way more fun and engaging.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:43 pm
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Facebook is a fun platform to keep up with people you may have lost contact with. I agree that it's probably not the best to post personal info out on the web, but it a good way to keep tabs with people who may have moved away or gotten hitch.

To be honest, these days, I'd find it odd that someone doesn't have a facebook or myspace page.
- July 3rd, 2009, 08:40 pm
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First of all, let me say that I am a fan of FB! I have found so many old friends from high school that I have not had contact with since like 1989 when I ghraduated! People moved on and have diffferent lives now! I now talk to them and keep up to date with them.

I should also mention some of the good applications they have, Typing Maniac is a great game has improved my typing ability and is highly addictive too!

As for adding people I am dating, well I must admit that I do it. I have privacy settings all set up so stuff does not go into my "feed". On my page, I have nothing to hide. I am who I am and am not going to change just to impress someone! There is no "I need weed" or vulgarity, sexual references or anything like that!

Facebook can be great if you want it be! Is it for everyone, no probably not but hey we live in the free world!
- July 4th, 2009, 04:21 am
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