Texting instead of calling


Reply
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
stilllookin29 is offline stilllookin29 Post #1  September 28,2008, 11:36am
stilllookin29's Avatar

still looking for Mr. Right - I hope he's still out there

Newbie

Joined: Jul 2008

South Jersey

Posts: 10

See profile



I am 40 years old and don't know if I'm old fashion or reading too much into things. It seems like when I start talking to someone, after the initial phone call, most communication is done through e-mail and text messaging. I feel as though it is a little in-personal. My friends say that it is just the times and I need to go with it. I feel as though the guys can't take five to ten minutes out of their day just to talk one on one. I mean, I have spent over an hour, sometimes even two hours texting back and forth to the same person. I would just assume speak to a live person for twenty minutes. I feel as though they are texting and e-mail about five other people, other than me. They are all attentive and responsive and the conversations do flow easily, it just seems odd.
 
  Reply With Quote
cdr4 is offline cdr4 Post #2  September 28,2008, 11:41am

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2008

Posts: 251

See profile



Just don't respond to text messages and the other party will get the message. I don't read text messages and delete them immediately.
 
  Reply With Quote
stilllookin29 is offline stilllookin29 Post #3  September 28,2008, 11:45am
stilllookin29's Avatar

still looking for Mr. Right - I hope he's still out there

Newbie

Joined: Jul 2008

South Jersey

Posts: 10

See profile

cdr4,275599 wrote :

Just don't respond to text messages and the other party will get the message. I don't read text messages and delete them immediately.
But I do want to communicate with the party. If I didn't want to communicate with them, I would tell them and not take any more messages. I want to continue to get to know the person, just think that texting is a little cold.
 
  Reply With Quote
cdr4 is offline cdr4 Post #4  September 28,2008, 11:47am

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2008

Posts: 251

See profile



If they want to communicate with you they will. If they don't they won't.
 
  Reply With Quote
DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #5  September 28,2008, 11:47am
DennisWiscons…'s Avatar

Milwaukee

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Milwaukee

Posts: 5,720

See profile



I used to think this way. When I'm at work it's nice to get a text message that someone is thinking of me. My friend wasn't interested in texting until I told her this. I got a call this morning from her telling me that she has tried to learn how.


I wouldn't wanttexting to replace phone calls but there is a use for it.
 
  Reply With Quote
cdr4 is offline cdr4 Post #6  September 28,2008, 11:50am

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2008

Posts: 251

See profile



Dennis, I prefer a well thought out email to an impromptu text. I am not much for phone calls though again because of the informal nature of it.
 
  Reply With Quote
livinagin is offline livinagin Post #7  September 28,2008, 11:52am
livinagin's Avatar

excited about working again!

Virtuoso

Joined: Apr 2008

Somewhere in Central Florida

Posts: 3,237

See profile



Afraid I have to agree w/ CDR. I actually had a guy try to reschedule a meeting w/ text message. He got closed. I thought it was totally inappropriate use of text after we had discussed meeting on a certain day for days.


Just sayin'
 
  Reply With Quote
SweetJude is offline SweetJude Post #8  September 28,2008, 12:01pm
SweetJude's Avatar

Quick Study

Joined: Sep 2008

Portland, Oregon

Posts: 81

See profile



Ugh! I am with you, still lookin! I have had friends who i have told do NOT text me - I won't respond, but they continued to do it. I got one text in the middle of the night that a friend's dog was sick. When I woke up, read the text, called her - she didn't answer. I was a bit aggravated about that one.


Then, I had a guy who I had met in an airport one day, had a short, casual conversation, an exchange of phone numbers, and that was it - no follow up - until............. THREE years later!! And it was a text message.... So wierd! He text-messaged me to see if it was still my phone number, okay fine, I said yes, then he CONTINUED to text-message me -on and on and on.... I FINALLY just called him, cause it was so ridiculously slow, but he wouldn't answer!!!! He texted me back to say he'd call me later, but still continued to text then.


Okay, forget about the waiting for THREE years to contact me - that was BIZARRE in and of itself - but why the heck wouldn't he answer the phone when he was spending all that time texting!???


Another guy ONLY text-messaged me, flirted his butt off, but NEVER called. I was soooo done with that. I just plain old stopped responding to his text messages, and then he stopped texting! If you're going pursue me, you'd better be willing to have a REAL conversation now and then, for goodness' sake!


I think there's a time and a place for everything. I think there are all sorts of reasons, times, places when a text message is appropriate. That said, when I am first getting to know someone, FORGET the text-messaging. It's irritating, impersonal, cold, and chicken, to me.


Yes, a younger generation has been raised with THAT being a primary form of contact, but for ME, no thank you!!!! I DO text-message, definitely, but when it's appropriate - NOT as a primary form of contact - NEVER!!!!


That said, you know you won't have control of how she contacts you, but only how you contact her. So, do what YOU do, and then just decide what works for you, and what doesn't. You can't change someone else - you gotta accept them how they are - text and all - if they are the person you decide you like. The final decision is yours, of course. Good luck! =)
 
  Reply With Quote
DennisWisconsin is offline DennisWisconsin Post #9  September 28,2008, 12:13pm
DennisWiscons…'s Avatar

Milwaukee

Power Poster

Joined: Jun 2008

Milwaukee

Posts: 5,720

See profile



I agree with most of what you guys are saying... Just text me when you miss me! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
  Reply With Quote
LonelyStarState is offline LonelyStarState Post #10  September 28,2008, 12:30pm

H ga hoshii

Unregistered

Joined: Sep 2008

San Antonio, Texas

Posts: 3,438

See profile

DennisWisconsin,275610 wrote :

I used to think this way. When I'm at work it's nice to get a text message that someone is thinking of me. My friend wasn't interested in texting until I told her this. I got a call this morning from her telling me that she has tried to learn how.


I wouldn't wanttexting to replace phone calls but there is a use for it.
Hmm.. I had replied to the OP but for some reason it doesn't show up here. I must of had a blonde moment and posted it on another thread. loool


Anyway, Dennis, I'm with you on this one. It's nice to have people remind you that they're thinking of you. Other times, its nice to have info they send you already "written down" somewhere, such as addresses, quick shopping list etc.


Another reason I like Txt msg is because its faster then waiting to receive emails on my cellphone.


Finally, I absolutely hate voice mail. Press #2 for this, press #1 for that. By the time I actually get to hear my voice mail, 2-3 minutes went by and its usually a wrong number too lol.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply


« characteristics of claimed marriages | Dating | You know...what's his name..... »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“ ...90%????? I'd say it's more like 60 to 70 percent of women who say they offer to pay on the first and subsequent dates, and/or have no problem with going dutch. I'm in the pool of women who ... ” –  legend29

Join the “who pays?” discussion

“I think you were there when he was hurting, and she was there when he wanted fun. He chose fun as a long term partner. That's understandable. The posters who've said you might be a reminder of the ... ” –  lynntlb78

Join the “Reuniting with EX” discussion

“ I know exactly where you are coming from. I went in thinking "man, it is just an email. Fire off a response, yeah or nay. What is the big deal?" but the truth is a little more complicated. Plus, I ... ” –  Freezepop

Join the “Guided Communication VS Email” discussion

“ I believe you and I got confused for a second. I didn't hit the Police officer. I hit the lady in front of me and then someone reported the accident and he came to check it out. That's how I met ... ” –  LadyVee

Join the “Confusing Man (LONG STORY)” discussion

“My bf just gave me advice about an adult child. I was in shock. He's never done that before. I didn't think he cared at all. The advice was really good too. It was supportive and I could see ... ” –  harnomygirl

Join the “Off -Topic” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 4:37pm.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0