laura_1poliquin is offline laura_1poliquin Post #1  September 28,2008, 9:18am
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I am finding it difficult to find a compatible match is it my profile?
 
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eliza61 is offline eliza61 Post #2  September 29,2008, 1:56pm
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laura_1poliquin, wrote :

I am finding it difficult to find a compatible match is it my profile?
Redo it,maybe after a glass of wine!
 
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Yes, like Eliza61 said, redo your profile and find a nicer picture of yourself. Both are a reflection of you. Right now they're saying that you're uninteresting and dark. Also, instead of highlighting your dogma, liven up your karma
 
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Or better yet, remember every single joke that you found entirely hysterical and find a way to weave it into your profile! Of course, those dirty jokes won't cut it. But there is plenty of other material to make your humor shine!
 
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laura_1poliquin, wrote :


I am finding it difficult to find a compatible match is it my profile?


No, it's dating. We're all having a hard time finding a compatible match. The computer doesn't change that, no matter what eH says.


Stay optimistic - you'll get there. If you feel that your profile needs a polishing (I don't know, I can't see it), go ahead and redo it.


A tip from the marketing world: Try a redo of your profile and let that sit for at least two weeks. If the response is better, go further in that direction until the response starts to drop off. If there's no improvement to your redo, try something else. Better still, go through the full 'marketing workup' on your profile: Think about the person you want. Now think about the sort of person THEY might be looking for. Then rework your profile, accenting those (real, not made up!) qualities in yourselfthat you think your 'goal' person is looking for. Don't lie or mislead, just put the real-you qualities that you think they might find most attractive in the forefront. Then wait and see what kind of response you get over the next couple of weeks. If it's still low, you probably don't understand your 'target' very well. Go ask people (your friends and family) what they think "a guy like this" would be looking for in a woman. Ask some men, too. If you see consistent themes in their responses, see which of those qualities describe you accurately, and rework your profile based upon that.


That's about the closest you're going to get to a 'sure fire' path to a killer profile, and even that's a bit of a hit-and-miss thing. And the kicker is this: even a perfect profile will mean nothing once you meet face-to-face. Then it's just you and him and reality. Make your profile as truthful as you can, or you're setting yourself (and him) up for disappointment when you eventually meet - the goal of this process is for two people to date, not two profiles.


At the end of the day, though, it's just hard to find a compatible match. Wish it were different, but it isn't.
 
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laura_1poliquin, wrote :

I am finding it difficult to find a compatible match is it my profile?
Hi Laura, First of all you're pic is waaaay too dark. I see a good looking woman there but it needs to be a lot lighter.


Your profile reflects that you are a devout Christian so I might suggest lookingfor Christian singels online dating. EH is a melting pot of personalities and various beliefs so it might be a bit difficult finding someone, but a lot of us have difficulty with EH on the whole. They throw a lot of people at you that don't even come close to matching what you asked for. Good luck!
 
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If you are speaking about eHarmony matches the compatibility is determined by eHarmony primarily by your answers to the Questionnaire. Your settings have some bearing on the type of matches that are delivered but not much impact on the overall compatibility.


If you viewed the Questionnaire as a joke and did not consider each question with respect to who you are then you will receive matches based on those answers. If the matches you are receiving do not reflect your values and interests then you should contact eHarmony about re-taking the Questionnaire.


If you feel the matches you are receiving are good matches and are closing you then re-working your profile and posting good, curent photos is a good idea. Your profile is the first view your matches have of you.
 
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Learn to use punctuation.
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