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Ok. Well for whatever personal reasons we have, most of us around here have decided to use internet dating as one of hopefully many ways we interact with other people.


From having read many of the comments, on this site (not just in this thread) it looks, to me, like most people are hoping for more than just interacting with other people. It appears most people are hoping to "meet that special someone".


And I'm not knocking it, by any means.To each his own.Its certainly not my cup of tea. Its not something that I've ever been inclined to try. But then, as I've said, I'm not into dating... period. I've said many times that... unless my knight-in-shining-armor just happens to come riding up, to my doorstep, on his white horse... I'm not likely to evermeet him. Because I'm not about to sift through a bunch of frogs in hopes of finding the elusive prince. That's just me. I don't expect others to feel the same way.

The rest of my long-winded posts are my attempts to explain (and provide examples of)what I meant by "natural" development of attraction/relationships/friendships. I'm not suggesting that there is no other way.
This is why you need a huge circle of friends and make sure you pursue and are pursued by guys who are your type.
 
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BlueEyedLizzie,272624 wrote :

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BlueEyedLizzie,272604 wrote :


Fun Filled Flings? Lol.


It's just this online dating thing is kind of a smorgesboard. I try a litte of this and then move on to graze elsewhere if there's something that's not quite right with the beef and the chicken looks tempting.


I like your interpretation of Rule #1!


Well, I know my biggest problem is thinking that the men I'm seeing are thinking the same things I'm thinking when in truth they're thinking about the five different types of chicken on the other side of the table so until relationships get to the point where the "exclusive" word comes up from both parties I've decided it's best to just have fun filled flingswith the salad bar and not see dinner as a one course thing. You know?
I don't know Lizzie, I have this thing about food analogies... Did you say chicken? It might be time for me to get some eats... [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-sealed.gif[/img][img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]
 
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japaneseblueeyes,273431 wrote :

sheera007,273017 wrote :


BlueEyedLizzie,272986 wrote :


Ok. Well for whatever personal reasons we have, most of us around here have decided to use internet dating as one of hopefully many ways we interact with other people.


From having read many of the comments, on this site (not just in this thread) it looks, to me, like most people are hoping for more than just interacting with other people. It appears most people are hoping to "meet that special someone".


And I'm not knocking it, by any means.To each his own.Its certainly not my cup of tea. Its not something that I've ever been inclined to try. But then, as I've said, I'm not into dating... period. I've said many times that... unless my knight-in-shining-armor just happens to come riding up, to my doorstep, on his white horse... I'm not likely to evermeet him. Because I'm not about to sift through a bunch of frogs in hopes of finding the elusive prince. That's just me. I don't expect others to feel the same way.

The rest of my long-winded posts are my attempts to explain (and provide examples of)what I meant by "natural" development of attraction/relationships/friendships. I'm not suggesting that there is no other way.


This is why you need a huge circle of friends and make sure you pursue and are pursued by guys who are your type.
No need.My knight-in-shining-armor did come riding up to my front doorstep. Well, not exactly.Neither of us were looking for anyone or anything. Neither of us were into dating or trying to "find" someone. It was quite the random, chance encounter.
 
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sheera007,273471 wrote :

No need.My knight-in-shining-armor did come riding up to my front doorstep. Well, not exactly.Neither of us were looking for anyone or anything. Neither of us were into dating or trying to "find" someone. It was quite the random, chance encounter.
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sheera007 wrote :
No need. My knight-in-shining-armor did come riding up to my front doorstep. Well, not exactly. Neither of us were looking for anyone or anything. Neither of us were into dating or trying to "find" someone. It was quite the random, chance encounter.

Congratulations! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]


Thank you.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]
Though I'm not sure congrats are in order. I didn't just win a prize... or graduate from yet another academic program... or get a book published... or deadlift 325lbs...


Just enjoying the heck out of someone, whoI'm absolutely crazy about.That's all.
 
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BlueEyedLizzie,272814 wrote :

And that's why I think getting off the computer and meeting face to face as quidkly as possible is important. I think EH has made is very much an interview process.I ask you questions...you ask me questions...I ask you questions...That portion is very stilted and scripted and frankly, I could do without it.
I mentioned this in another thread, but I think bringing it up is worthwhile.


On a competitor's site, (Chemistry), they actually have another Step AFTER Email.


They call it "First Meeting".


Its cheezy, but I like it, because it helps re-enforce that the goal is NOT making it to the Email Stage, but the real goalis to meet in Real Life, and if things go well, beyond that.


I like that they have that final Stage out there "waiting", so that both sides get a little "Nudge" that Meeting in real life is the real goal, and that the site is only here to get us to that point.
 
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jayjay,273170 wrote :

I've been on eH for several months now....and last year I was on match (the dating site) for several months. I hadn't even thought about it until now....but the response rate after I've initiated communication has actually been much higher (or maybe I should say it hasn't been as low) for me on eH than it was on match.
I agree 100%. Heck, 1000%.


I believe Match is more or a less a site for the quick hookup/FWB/One Night Stands.


I think most of the PAYING members on EH are truly looking for a LTR or marriage, and because of that, are much more serious about the process, and are much more likelyto respond.


For me, there is no question thatthe response rate here is a TON better than it ever was on Match.
 
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