Good things to ask on first date


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zeb431 is offline zeb431 Post #81  September 27,2008, 3:01pm
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Looks like both are going into gifted programs. ;-)

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japaneseblueeyes,274178 wrote :

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Any history of mental illness?? Never thought this would be necessary, until I dated a bipolar fellow!


that is why I asked about the suicide and the adultery. I have found, through personal experience or vicariously through the tragic marriage failures of friends that these two things are not asked and then after marriage, they rear their ugly head. marriage is a tough enough act to follow without these boat anchors. the infidelity thing is one that is just so hard to deal with and more so when you see the tragice impact and consequences of the sins of the parents translating to the sins of the offspring repeating the behavior.


Of course it is important to talk about all of these things before marriage. But on the first date it is just way too soon.
well if you have fallen for her already, its a bit too late to deal with them then. now you have a huge piece of emotional baggage to contend with.
 
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Glider_Pilot,274236 wrote :

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LOL...I have this strange feeling that eHA won't pin a thread to the top of the forum that mentions canceling an eH subscription after 3 months and saying the GC process is mumbo jumbo. But...I could be wrong (not!). [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]


At the risk going off-topic, I will say that eH has been surprisingly tolerant of anti-eH views on these forums. I don't know if that's an artifact of the largely automated moderation, or if they're genuinely that open about allowing differing opinions.


The cynic in me says that the Advice Forums are such a red-headed stepchild in the eyes of the eH management that they simply don't pay attention to it.
Careful what you say about redheads! I'll gather my auburn-tressed sisters, Lostintranslatin and Hogrally and we'll come do something really BAD to you! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
 
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fino4beat,274514 wrote :

Careful what you say about redheads! I'll gather my auburn-tressed sisters, Lostintranslatin and Hogrally and we'll come do something really BAD to you! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
It's. A. Figure. Of. Speech.


I was a redhead all through childhood - in fact, I was a red-headed stepchild for a few years. Then in high-school, it turned brown. Never quite figured that out, but I wasn't terribly upset.


So exactly what BAD things will the three of you come do to me? Hmmmmmmmm? Tell me! Tell me! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #84  September 27,2008, 3:24pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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fino4beat,274514 wrote :

Glider_Pilot,274236 wrote :


jayjay,274199 wrote :


LOL...I have this strange feeling that eHA won't pin a thread to the top of the forum that mentions canceling an eH subscription after 3 months and saying the GC process is mumbo jumbo. But...I could be wrong (not!). [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]


At the risk going off-topic, I will say that eH has been surprisingly tolerant of anti-eH views on these forums. I don't know if that's an artifact of the largely automated moderation, or if they're genuinely that open about allowing differing opinions.


The cynic in me says that the Advice Forums are such a red-headed stepchild in the eyes of the eH management that they simply don't pay attention to it.


Careful what you say about redheads! I'll gather my auburn-tressed sisters, Lostintranslatin and Hogrally and we'll come do something really BAD to you! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
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zeb431,271048 wrote :

might as well get it out front early. twice, I met dates, and we started running the list and it took only about 30 minutes to realize no match there. no more dates, no more wasted time, no wasted emotions. now what is worse, falling for someone and then compromising values and morals to avoid conflict to keep them, or to simply weed them out early?

Why don't you just prepare an Excel spreadsheet with every question you have and ask your matches to fill out every answer as soon as you get to email correspondence? You'll save even more time and emotion by weeding them out even earlier.
 
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zeb431,274494 wrote :

it was from long term sleep deprivation. 4 hours was about the best she could do, between getting kids ready for school, doing chores, being mom, and working two full time jobs.


then again, her words, not mine. it explained the weeks of getting along swimmingly and then suddenly, in as little as 24 hrs, complete reversal of mood.
Sleep deprivation psychosis is fairly well documented and can be characterized by episodes of paranoia, moodiness and hallucinations. In other words, their thoughts became increasingly distorted and the individual can suffer from "marked periods of irrationality." Pretty tough on a relationship, I'd imagine.
 
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EMTZ,274532 wrote :

zeb431,271048 wrote :


might as well get it out front early. twice, I met dates, and we started running the list and it took only about 30 minutes to realize no match there. no more dates, no more wasted time, no wasted emotions. now what is worse, falling for someone and then compromising values and morals to avoid conflict to keep them, or to simply weed them out early?





Why don't you just prepare an Excel spreadsheet with every question you have and ask your matches to fill out every answer as soon as you get to email correspondence? You'll save even more time and emotion by weeding them out even earlier.
thats only a two dimensional database, access would be better. then it can be three dimensional relational database[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-wink.gif[/img]
 
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things not tosay on a first date!


if you are male-


1. Does it bother you if I live with my parents?


2. My last partner had genital herbies !


3. Can I borrow 20.00?


if you are female-


1. I want to find someone to help me raise my children ( all 9 of them) !


2. Do you think a bride should wear white if she is not a virgin?


3. Can I have your cell phone number in case you forget to call me?
 
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TroyL65, wrote :

What are some good things to ask that won't be to invasive to ask on the first few dates?


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Well ..What is your favorite color? Do you like flowers, and which are your favorite? What would be one of your favorite [laces to go on a vacation? Do you have kids? What do you loke to do for fun? Go to the ovies,dancing,walk, out to eat, shoping,exct... therer are alot of things to talk about,just open up your heart..,
 
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