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In this economy, it pays to be frugal. But there's a difference between frugal and downright miserly. Here's how to deal with a date whose wallet never sees the light of day.
- September 24th, 2008, 12:00 pm
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I won't date someone like that a second time. I'm not interested in trying to convince someone whose probably been like this all their lives that they're cheap. I know people like this and their wives and husbands are miserable. It's a control/fear issue . . . don't have the energy to waste on someone who is scared of parting with a few dollars, whatever the economy. I don't need someone with a six digit a year salary, but there's ways to be generous without being rich.
- September 24th, 2008, 12:36 pm
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Frugal and living within your means is one thing. But being cheap to the point that you inconvenience your date is unacceptable and I won't date someone like that. I agree with Songryder. There's no way to convince someone like who is this way that there is a problem is wasted effort.
- September 24th, 2008, 12:42 pm
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Saving his singles for the stripe club IMO.
- September 24th, 2008, 09:30 pm
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I`m a very giving person and i don`t like cheapskate, i`ll help out sometime, but not all the time. i want a good man, in and out.
- December 11th, 2008, 06:20 pm
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Nothing's a bigger turnoff to me (well, almost nothing) as a man who's cheap. I understand that sometimes money is tight and I don't expect people to spend money they don't have (that's no good either) but if someone is just naturally a tightwad, I find that very unattractive and I would not goon a second date with that guy. (Been there, done that!) LOL!
- February 11th, 2009, 10:17 pm
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I once dated a man who was too cheap to buy a sandwich on an afterwork date, after I had been out all day, and took a cab to get to our meeting place. He claimed the sandwiches were too expensive! For crying out loud! I was terribly hungry, and decided to buy one for myself.


He was an attorney. I'm a grad student! I think he must have been a tightwad, for he did not seem embarassed that I bought my own food. I later discovered that he eats very little food as a rule... not sure why. I thought it abnormal!


Was he just a divorced man who got the short end of the settlement stick? Or tightwad? I did not care to find out. For me it was ...


THE END!
- February 11th, 2009, 10:35 pm
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Being cheap is one of the biggest turn-offs for me in a human being, let alone a mate. I would not even be friends with a cheapskate.
- February 11th, 2009, 10:49 pm
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I would not go out with someone who is cheap. They might dress sharply but if youpay really good attention you find small signs like are the heels of their shoes worn and in need of being replaced, are the buttons loose on that jacket they are wearing, etc. I think you get the idea. They have their priorities messed up. Most likely if you could get a good look at their finances they might have money in savings, invested in a retirement fund but all their credit cards are maxed out or they are paying the minimum.
- February 11th, 2009, 11:51 pm
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you wanted me to pay for dinner? i got you a free mint didnt i??? As for Markisfocused - you wanna pick up the valet? im saving my singles...
- February 12th, 2009, 12:04 am
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