Long Distance Dating...?

on the other hand, Sigonella is lovely this time of year. When the clouds clear you can see the stray steam wisp from Mt. Etna.

This irritates me no end. Why can't these men state up front that they are overseas in the military in their profile. Why take away a person's right to decide if they want to invest the effort in getting to know someone so far away. It's the right and honest thing to do.


Forgive me, but I'm just a bit peeved. I had someone do the same to me recently. His profile said PA, but he was really overseas. He wasn't a scammer but he seemed to be having fun at womens' expense. Arghhhh! [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-yell.gif[/img]

I was matched with a man whooriginallysaid in his profile that he was in California nearby to me. When starting open communication, he told me that he was stationed in Italy through the US Air Force, and he has been there for two years. I have been talking to him the last few weeks through emails, phone, and webcam. It seems like we're hitting it off, but a couple of days ago he through out the idea of me coming out to see him in Italy and paying for half the cost of the ticket. I have tried long distance relationships before, but not that long distance, and not to someone i've never met in person.


I'm thinking this could be apossibility.


Is this too soon to make plans to go and meet him? Any advise especially dating someone in the military?

I was in a long-distance relationship for over 3 years, and in many ways it was wonderful. We each traveled about every other month for a long weekend, so both of us traveled 6 times a year (we had longer breaks in summer and Christmas). Aside from the airport delays, it was never a problem.


However, it wasn't the together time that made that relationship last, IMHO--it was the phone time. Every night, we'd talk for at least an hour, discussing our days, mutual friends we had made in our travels, just anything . . . and that kept us very close. We also emailed a lot. We never had to wonder where each other was (the death blow to most LDRs), because we had a standing "date" at 9 every evening!


That R ended not due to distance but because, as we continued to learn about each other, some differences arose that we didn't feel we could overcome. We are still close friends and he knows he could call me right now if he needed to and I could do the same with him.


I think it's entirely possible to have a good and productive LDR, but you have to lay some ground rules up front. Most people don't want to do that because it doesn't seem "romantic," but I believe it's necessary if you're going to survive past a few months.