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Hmmm...Well, just to post my $.02, but the last date I met for coffee hugged me right off the bat, as I went in for a handshake...when we left, I went in for the hug and she went in for the handshake. We laughed about it later, and we are going out again, so I dont think it was a lack of chemistry or attraction. I am fine with a quick hug, not the boob smashing kind, or the ass grabto pull their hips into, but the quick squeez and a smile. And definetly not the lingering, long touching kind either, those can come later. I am pretty rusty at dating, so I seem to have a hard time picking up on the 'ques' of when to hug, when to kiss and when to leave it alone...sometimes I feel like a bumbling idiot...maybe I am!
- October 5th, 2008, 12:10 pm
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Hey all,


Handshake way to formal, little side hug, touch on the arm, something a bit personal.
- October 5th, 2008, 12:29 pm
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louel53 wrote :

Some people are handshakers; some are huggers. If you have been talking for a long time, and you feel you know this person, a hug might be in order. If you have gone for the "coffee" date, and this is beginning of the "getting to know you" stage, I'd go for the handshake. At the end of the date, you go with what you feel. If you are still on the handshake, maybe there isn't enough chemistry.
I agree for the most part. I think if you are on a "date" you sort of know this person already either through other short encounters or from phone conversations orwhatever. I am kindof a touchy type person and when I am glad to see someone I generally hug (even when I see one of my female friends that I haven't seen for a while and really miss). I don't think of offering a handshake unless it is the actual first encounter with someone and for me that wouldn't take place on a "date." If I was unsure how much I wanted to see a person or they wanted to see me for that matter, I probably wouldn't offer any physical contact at all.


I think also that it is difficult for a touchy person to not be touchy and for a nontouchy person to be nontouchy if you know what I mean.


- October 5th, 2008, 01:10 pm
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A little crotch grab goes a long way.


Yes, all the way to court.
You would sue a woman who grabbed your crotch on the first date!? Wow!
- October 5th, 2008, 02:02 pm
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RRoland wrote :


BuzWeaver wrote :


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A little crotch grab goes a long way.


Yes, all the way to court.


You would sue a woman who grabbed your crotch on the first date!? Wow!



My point was if a man were to do that.


- October 6th, 2008, 08:19 am
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That's fine as long as the guy doesn't expect you to walk 3 paces behind him.
In Japan being 3 paces away from anyone would mean that there would be a flood of people inbetween and impossible to see each other.
- October 6th, 2008, 10:09 am
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How do you all greet a date for the first time? I think this has been asked before, but do you shake their hands or give them a hug?
The first internet date I met hugged me and it was a creepy hug. He took his hands andslid them along my sides. It was a little too familiar for the first meeting. After that on dates I stuck to a handshake at the beginning which seemed a little too formal. Then at the end of the date I gave the guys a hug. Handshakes seem too formal sometimes while hugs seem too familiar at times. There was one date I went on where I saw him and didn't want to give him a hug in greeting (truth be told whenI saw him I wasn't physically attracted), and it was awkward when he went in for the hug and I went in for a handshake. What do you all do?
I've been on exactly two dates with women I met on the net and in nieghter case did we hug or shake hands. In the last instance I got a hug that I shall never forget at the end of the date but then she also flew down from Tenn. just to meet me.
- October 7th, 2008, 06:26 pm
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Hugs are a major food group... and I say so in my profile...





- November 4th, 2008, 06:16 am
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talonfinite wrote :

if a handshake is presented (never had one like that) I don't know what I would do...probably hold out a fist to bump knuckles and call her homie or something.
Oh man that cracked me up lol
- November 6th, 2008, 10:36 pm
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BlueEyedLizzie wrote :
If I get a hug at the end of a first date I know I'll never hear from the guy again. It's weird but I swear to god...every time. But if he's standing close, kind of leaning in I know I have him.
This is so true, and rules every girl should go by.

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No handshakes!!!! EVER!

If a guy gave me a handshake I would not be waiting for the second date.
Couldn't agree more! I have never had a guy give me a handshake before or at the end of a date. If a guy did that to me I would be so insulted

Honestly getting a handshake sounds too formal and more than likely is the kiss of death.

I always give guys I meet for the first time a hug and/or kiss on the cheek, and at the end of the night a kiss if it went well or a thank you with no hug if it did not go well.
- July 28th, 2009, 01:51 pm
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