"...Can I walk you to the door?"


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Alli08 is offline Alli08 Post #1  September 20,2008, 8:10am
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Okay, story time.


So there was this guy that I hung out with all the timejust as goodfriends. We hung out with each-other's families, went shopping together, went to lunch with each-other, etc. So one night I went with him to a restaraunt on the river, and afterwards, he took me toa movie (as far as I know, it wasn't planned, we had just planned on hanging out that day). He drove me home afterwards, and when we pulled up to my house, he asked, "So, you want me to walk you to the door?" He'd never offered to walk me to the door before, so surprised, I replied with, "Well, you don't have to if you don't want to--" And he said, "It was just a question..." And I said, "I know...okay,yes, you can walk me to the door." So he walked me up, I handed him my to-go container to hold while Ifished for my keys in my purse, unlocked the door, took the container back, thanked him and said good night and went inside.


Solater, another friend told me that if a guy asks "Can I walk you to the door" or "Would you like me to walk you to the door", that means he's hoping he'll get a kiss.


So. "Can I walk you to the door" -- common courtesy, or trying to get a kiss?
 
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So. "Can I walk you to the door" -- common courtesy, or trying to get a kiss?
Both.





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I have never had a man walk me to the door and not want a kiss, whether he was a friend or a date. I think maybe he wanted a kiss.


BTW, if I wanted the man to stay as a friend I would politely decline. Once the kiss happens, it is no longer platonic, but romantic.
 
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I agree it is both. He is wanting to be courteous and is hoping for a kiss. It's also possible he was hoping to be invited in...
 
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Sounds like it was his way of letting you know he was interested in more than just friendship - he may not have been "expecting" anything that night, but might just have wanted to use this as his way of showing further interest in you.
 
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alexsmom0501,265401 wrote :

I agree it is both. He is wanting to be courteous and is hoping for a kiss. It's also possible he was hoping to be invited in...
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I'm with the others. This was a crossroads -- were you, or were not, just on a date? Walking you to the door is what you would do on a date. If it was an outing between friends, no need to walk you to the door. He was trying to figure out how you defined your outing.
 
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Red Sox Girl,265404 wrote :

Sounds like it was his way of letting you know he was interested in more than just friendship - he may not have been "expecting" anything that night, but might just have wanted to use this as his way of showing further interest in you.
Ditto!


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He wants to be more than friends.


But I can tell already what you want...


"So there was this guy that I hung out with all the time just as good friends."


To be a good friend, be honest with him and let him know you only want to be friends. Don't let him keep thinking there's a chance for more, even though you may enjoy the attention.
 
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Red Sox Girl,265404 wrote :

Sounds like it was his way of letting you know he was interested in more than just friendship - he may not have been "expecting" anything that night, but might just have wanted to use this as his way of showing further interest in you.
I agree! But Alli I have to say I am one of those girls that can recognize this as someone tells me - but if it had happened to me i can't guarantee I would have picked that up til later. Sometimes I don't pick up on the signals until later. Anybody else have that problem?
 
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