He drinks every night....should I be worried?


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Joy 2bwith is offline Joy 2bwith Post #21  November 27,2008, 1:11pm
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Daily drinking is a problem - weekend binges are a problem. Don't trust anyone you meet on an alternate dating site and be very wary of EH.
 
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tinydanzer, wrote :
I've been talking to this guy I met online for the past month. He seems really nice and a great catch. We plan on meeting soon, hopefully. However he likes to drink, a lot. He says he has a drink every night before he goes to bed. He also gets together with friends and parties like it's college nearly every weekend.

Part of me is really turned off by this. Then again part of me thinks it might change when he gets settled into a relationship. Am I just being nieve (sp)? Or should I be worried?
Please don't count on him changing...


IMHO this is habit... alcoholism...


be worried... be aware... be careful....
 
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tinydanzer, wrote :
I've been talking to this guy I met online for the past month. He seems really nice and a great catch. We plan on meeting soon, hopefully. However he likes to drink, a lot. He says he has a drink every night before he goes to bed. He also gets together with friends and parties like it's college nearly every weekend.

Part of me is really turned off by this. Then again part of me thinks it might change when he gets settled into a relationship. Am I just being nieve (sp)? Or should I be worried?
Please don't count on him changing...


IMHO this is a habit... alcoholism...


be worried... be aware... be careful....
 
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Whatever the amount is that he TELLS you he drinks, double it. Stay far away from drinkers. It's a progressive disease. It is a life of hell. If you get involved with an alcoholic, it will suck the life out of you. They are manipulative. They not only ruin their lives but yours as well. And if you love someone, it becomes very difficult to walk away later.
 
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Drinking daily may have become a habit & may not be alcoholism.Seeing that he is a happy drunk then I would be far less concerned than if he developed a temper of any kind. Sometimes I go several months with drinks at night & then several without any.


Not every drinker is an alcoholic. He may not be hiding any of his drinking & most people have had the very occassional rough ride home. Don't be so quick to judge him.


I know men & women that drink religiously & do not have drinking "problems". I wouldn't tell them how to live unless I truely felt that they were in trouble.
 
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Be worried. BE VERY WORRIED.


He may not be an alcoholic by definition (yet), but he definitely sounds like a problem drinker . . . which is only one step away from alcoholism. You can't do anything tohelp him change except to reject him entirely.


Take it from someone who knows - I once dated an alcoholic, and found out first hand what it's REALLY all about. If I have even an inkling that some guy I've met might POSSIBLY have a drinking problem or worse, I'm outta there without thinking twice. I simply will NOT go there again.


Do yourself a favor and don't go there in the first place.


If you want to know more about what it's REALLY like to be in a relationship with someone like that, read the book "Getting Them Sober".
 
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