Why do men talk about sex before they've met you??


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StephanieT is offline StephanieT Post #1  July 16,2008, 1:43am
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I have been a member of eHarmony for almost a year and I have to say that I am disappointed in the quality of men I am meeting. I usually talk to the men on the phone before I meet them in person and many of them make sexual innuendoes and one even asked if it was okay if we had "phone sex!" When I reacted negatively towards that idea, he said he was "just joking!" Right. So my question is: Why do men talk about sex or make sexual innuendoes to a woman they have never met? Do "good" guys exist anymore?
 
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Yes, we exist. And no, any man with a shred of morality or sense of honor wouldn't even make the slightest sexual innuendo. Jerks like that givethe honorable of themale of the speciesa bad rap. I'm truly sorry you're getting such lowlifes in eH. However, the only upside to your problem is that you're not wasting anymore of your time other than 10 minutes on the phone. At least you don't have deal with wandering hands andhim talking to yourbreasts. I know it is discouraging and quite irritating...but us Good Guys are out there. Believe it or not, it's hard to find Good Girls, too.
 
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I agree with irishbrianSteph, those guys are losers, you should stay away from them as do the real men. lol
 
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It's usually the "stud wannabees" that bring up the S-E-X word!


As irishbrian indicated earlier, most real men know the meaning of the word: RESPECT! So the subject of sex...phone or the real thing...isn't brought up.


However, there are some women thatcan bevery aggressive on the first date, or even the first phone call. So when a man is challenged or teased by a woman into havinga sexual encounter---does he accept it or ignore it? [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img]


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We exist...we're just stealthy [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]
 
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Yes, good guys do exist. I have three brothers, and they are nice men.
 
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There are definately some nice guys out there just get rid of the losers that bring up sex before you have even dated them for a while.
 
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They are playas so stay away from them! Luckily they showed their true colors before you invested too much time and energy with them. Also keep phone calls short. Guys minds wander if you keep them on the phone too long with nothing to say.
 
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Since no one has really answered your question except by reassuring you that there are good guys out there. I'll try to give it a shot... Some guys are dumb, some guys are horny, some guys are dumb and horny. But some guys are just nervous and say dumb things.Some are good some are bad... I think theword guys should be replaced with people and you should realize that dating is hard.Stopbeating yourself up over those idiots! And know that you're not the only one out there. Finding the right person is hard just look at our divorce rate.
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #10  July 17,2008, 4:02am
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Guys try to talk about normal things, but sometimes they get distracted by a force that is stronger than themselves.
 
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