what should I do?

Hi! I need some advice, because I really don't know what I should do. I met someone on EH, we got through guided communication, shared our email IDs... and are emailing now. However, there are some small things, and they don't seem right for me. But I don't know. Maybe I'm just over-analysing things... which I tend to do. Or maybe things are really not right and I should tell him? But how do I find out what's the case. The thing is, I live in germany, he in the UK: I send him the GC questions first, coz hardly any of my matches makes a first step. It seemed all nice and compatible. But the thing is: I have a baby and he knows that. Now asked me to come over to the UK, rather in a flirty way, but also with some seriousness. However, I wish he had offered to come see me first, coz it's much easier for him to take the trip than for me. His argument was that I was the one who sent the questions first, so? But I don't think that should mena I have to every step first. Especially when he could think for himself that it takes much more planning for me to get there. And I would visit him if I met him in person here and found it pleasant to be with him. But I can hardly ask him to come over if he doesnÄt suggest it. It's just not appropriate in my eyes. Second, he asked me to put some more pics on EH if I'm ok with it, I was and did it. Then I asked him if he could add just one more head shot to his profile since there was only one and the rest distance shots. Instead, he sent all kinds of pics (about 20) to my email and said "oh, and I'm looking forward to yours" -- which in turn makes me feel awkward, coz I don't want to send pics to somebodys email ID who I haven't met yet. He then said, it's all about trust and he was just being generous, but said ok, then not. But I think he shouldn't have expected it in the first place or at least asked me if I'm cool with that. This way, I feel pushed into something I wasn't ready for. And so it is... there were one or two more smaller things, like he said, he thinks I'd take my time (about 2 years) with finding someone, but he doesb't want to take that long... but then again, this is my slow pace, and it feels weird if things have to go faster than I want. And he said, I wanted someone who knows what he wants. Yeah, sure. That's what I said but not on the cost of making others feel pressurized. Besides that we aslo had things that seemed to be very compatible - interest-wise. But right now I doubt if that's enough if there are already all these other things there. And maybe it will just go on like this, that he's always expecting more and doing things faster and I just can't keep up. That's what I'm worried about, no matter how nice he seems otherwise.

If you're going to engage matches long distance, you're going to have to be more upfront with what you want and also expect to do more planning.
At some point you're going to have to meet, otherwise what's the point of it?
Tell him your wants & needs. You can't be wishy washy about it.
If he's pressuring you too much, then tell him.
And yes, it's perfectly appropriate.

First a question--are you new to online dating? Is this the first or second person you've communicated with? If so, it might feel as if things move a little faster than feels comfortable. Either way my advice below stands.

It is perfectly reasonable to ask him to come to see you. You have a child. He is unencumbered. An alternative, would be to meet at some midpoint between the two of you, maybe Paris? In the meanwhile, consider Skype. Since you have misgivings, I would not go to the UK. My compromise would be France. That way you both have "skin in the game."

The photo situation? Whatever. I wouldn't read too much into that. Seems like a mild disconnect in communication styles and expectations. But I would trust your intuition. It rarely if ever leads us astray. I would pay attention and be cautious as I proceed. I don't know what the other things are that concern you. Can you share? Personally, I'd abandon ship if a man tried to push my boundaries or it seemed he might not respect them. I'm not really seeing that based on what you've said. So I would meet him in Germany or France, and then decide.

This match is pushing the envelope and playing games to get everything on his terms. Why accommodate someone who just keeps asking for more and more...but who offers nothing.

There is a manipulative tone to his interactions. He can feign "compatibility" with certain words and fake interest with some flattery and flirting...however his method is insincere. Why not choose someone more local who interacts in a less confusing, more sincere manner....Good Luck