User031312 is offline User031312 Post #1  February 7,2012, 4:16pm
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Im kinda sorta still in love with my gay ex-boyfriend (Im a girl). What should I do? Why can't I seem to let him go even though obviously we can't be together?
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If he's gay....there is nothing you can do...And to continue a friendship can only happen if you truly love him as a person, and can be cheering him on with new relationships.

If you can't be a true friend to him, than just move on with your life. He has chosen his....
 
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There is something so strange about wanting what we can't have...whether that be the guy who suddenly has a girlfriend is now attractive, or the guy who breaks our heart is then placed on some idealistic pedastool or in your case the gay guy who will never love you the way you want. Its the challenge and the mystery and the intrigue that is playing into this. I went to a party last weekend that included about 100 people....about 80 of them were gay men. I have to admit it was a little dissapointing to know I had no power over any of them. When I saw an especially attractive guy who just so happened to be gay I have to admit (again) it made me stop and realize that it made him even that much more attractive...i.e. the unattainable factor makes it more difficult to make our feelings realistic in nature.
Just let it go and move on...get out and meet people...change your perspective.
 
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Feelings, how I hate feelings ! .. Ok, not seriously, I do not hate feelings, but they do control us. it will take time to get over him. Can you do some extra activities ? Study/work longer hours ? Read more books,. be with more friends and for longer periouds of time ?

Time is the only cure for something like this, and you have to give yourself lots of it. keep yourself occupied as much as you can .... Whatever you can think of, physical activity to sleep better at night is good too.

It will be a funny story one day ...
 
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I think it's best to get nakked, and show them what they're missing.
 
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Ask him if you're the reason he turned gay. The answer might help you get over him.
 
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two things- you can never change another. and exes are exes for a reason.

let him go. if he does not want you, you will never be able to have him. and you should not want someone that does not want you.
 
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Seriously??? I thought this question went to a dating expert not just an open forum!!
This is ridiculous. I dont understand boards...
 
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he was gay before i met him and before we dated. i knew what i was getting into... sorta. lol
 
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Seriously??? I thought this question went to a dating expert not just an open forum!!
This is ridiculous. I dont understand boards...

We're better than experts.

We do not get paid for our "advice," and it is thus real.

Plus, we been on dates ... some of us!
 
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