emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #11  February 8,2012, 3:58pm
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You're a woman right? Why on earth would you pursue or date a gay man? Did you seriously think you would change him? That he would marry you? What? Where exactly did you expect this to lead?

You need to take a good, hard look at why you choose the men that you do? Why are you repeatedly picking men who you know are unavailable or who act unavailable? Why are you getting hung up on them? What is it that you fear in a real relationship with an available man? If you refuse to reflect honestly on the real reasons for your choices, be prepared to give yourself a lot of grief, frustration, unhappiness, and yes, lonely years, as you continue this behavior.
 
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butterflypatience wrote :
he was gay before i met him and before we dated. i knew what i was getting into... sorta. lol
Is he a gay man or bi-sexual? Did you all have sex in this "relationship"?

Either way...you all broke up for a reason and he has moved on....so should you.
 
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Plus, we've been on dates ... some of us!
Hahahaha....
 
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You'll have to pay a psychologist an hourly fee if you want one-on-one hand holding regarding your issue.

If you don't "like" what members have taken their time to read and given feedback on your issue..that is unfortunate...but that's how it works..

It clearly states that these are dating forums..Inform your self by reading the headings and address any complaints about the boards here:
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Seriously??? I thought this question went to a dating expert not just an open forum!!
This is ridiculous. I dont understand boards...
 
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That you knew he was gay prior to dating him says a lot about you - did you think you were going to be the catalyst that turned him straight?

If he is truly gay, a relationship that is other than friendship is unattainable. You need to move on and consider why you are choosing the men you choose to date. The relationship with your ex was doomed from the start, and you knew it.

When you are ready to date again, be careful to choose a man who is truly available, otherwise it will be a waste of your time and his.
 
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Dont worry about it. (I am a therapist btw)
 
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butterflypatience wrote :
Dont worry about it. (I am a therapist btw)
So...you would counsel someone to date a gay man in the hopes to "change" him?
 
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lol no. I dont want to tell the whole story. How do I delete this thread?
 
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emma_hazards is offline emma_hazards Post #19  February 16,2012, 11:37am
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butterflypatience wrote :
Dont worry about it. (I am a therapist btw)

Even therapists can benefit from counseling.
 
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harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #20  February 16,2012, 11:53am
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butterflypatience wrote :
Dont worry about it. (I am a therapist btw)
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lol no. I dont want to tell the whole story. How do I delete this thread?
We could ask you questions. Was he once a patient? Was he ambivalent about his homosexuality when you started therapy?
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