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Thanks. But I really thought I was asking a dating expert not random people online...
Sorry about that....the description about this particular board does not really describe it correctly...This is something we have alerted the EHA staff about and hope it gets corrected...

Your stuck with just us! LOL...
 
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These are open forums where you will receive the opinions of those who wish to respond. Most people who respond will be sincere and sometimes brutally honest in their feedback. I'm sorry you didn't understand how this forum works, but perhaps you should familiarize yourself with the Community Standards (http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...e-posting.html (Are you NEW to eHarmony Advice? Welcome! PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING!)) so you are better informed about the forums.

With regard to your question, I have also read your other post regarding the last man you dated. I am also concerned that you are in a cycle of pursuing unavailable men and that your time and effort would be better spent doing some self-analysis before you jump back into the world of dating.

Also, you might find it helpful to read about and take the 5 Love Languages quiz. It's free and takes only a few minutes to complete. (google '5 love languages')

There are several more tools that you might find helpful - the Meyer-Briggs test located on Free On-line Myers Briggs Personality Tests | Develop & Grow and even creating a profile on eH by answering questions in the 29 dimensions of compatibility will help you gain a better understanding of who you are and will assist you in your search to find someone with whom a healthy relationship can occur.

IMHO, you need to be sure you are in a healthy place emotionally prior to re-entering the dating world. There are many tools including counseling that can help you accomplish this.

Good luck in your search.
 
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The link refers to another link which is nonfunctional, unfortunately, they never fixed that.
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I'm sorry you didn't understand how this forum works, but perhaps you should familiarize yourself with the Community Standards (http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...e-posting.html (Are you NEW to eHarmony Advice? Welcome! PLEASE READ BEFORE POSTING!))
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
Sorry about that....the description about this particular board does not really describe it correctly...This is something we have alerted the EHA staff about and hope it gets corrected...

Your stuck with just us! LOL...
Lol! I remember when I first posted here back in October I thought I was really asking a "dating expert". I was a little confused but found that the people here are very insightful and the mix of opinions and perspectives gave me a ton to think about.
 
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Strange, I always thought some of these fine folks were the dating experts. They do have excellent advice and are not afraid to voice their opinions. I know they helped me, maybe they can help you too ?


I believe you should not meet with this guy ... he is playing with you.
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
Lol! I remember when I first posted here back in October I thought I was really asking a "dating expert". I was a little confused but found that the people here are very insightful and the mix of opinions and perspectives gave me a ton to think about.
It's certainly no one's fault that they thought they would get an expert as the description says exactly that.....

Again...hopefully this time around they will fix this (it should literally be so simple to change the wording) as well as the link for newbies to read.
 
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Well, I AM a dating expert. My bf told me so.
 
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Wiseman2 wrote :
The link refers to another link which is nonfunctional, unfortunately, they never fixed that.
Not sure what you see when you go there, but the link to the advice for newbies works just fine when I click on it. Here's where it takes me: http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/of...e-newbies.html (Welcome and Tips for eHarmony Advice Newbies!)

Do you end up elsewhere?
 
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I did end things with that guy. No worries
 
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So I started talking to someone on eharmony and he lives an hour away and we've just been texting for weeks but he doesnt reveal much about himself, just wants to flirt (sometimes creepily though he says he's kidding). He says he wants to meet me and is interested yet is too busy to set up a date. I understand people are busy and we live far, but its been a month now... Is it leading me on? All my friends are concerned and think I should let him go, but Im just curious enough to want to meet him. Im barely texting him now, hoping he'll call or set up a date but losing hope now!

Has the person been forthcoming about why he is a Delay-Fish?

If I had a new match with a limited period of inability to meet - like they have a Saturday university course and are writing papers on Sunday for four weeks, I'd probably wait the four weeks.

If they don't offer a reason - or their reasons are stupid or otherwise proof of incompatibility - then I'd probably just lose all of my interest in them.

I advocate you tell him you want a meeting this weekend, either in his community or yours. If you don't like his answer (or he flakes on it), then bail.
 
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