Dropdeadredtx is offline Dropdeadredtx Post #31  February 8,2012, 6:36pm
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Nothing to do with the RO. She texted that she's not over her ex. I guess I'll save the flowers and candy next week...
Meh, she's just using the ex as an excuse.
 
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Now Red, remember she was distracted and upset way before the RO conversation hit the fan...
 
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Whatever the reason for her to be moving on, hopefully you have learned something from this experience. No matter what the circumstances, being involved in any way w/ a relationship that ends in a RO is a huge red flag. Even if the other person is largely at fault, just being involved in any way... not a good thing.

As an aside, one night when I was bored, I ran my ex-husband through the local web site & found that another woman had taken out a TRO against him during the period when we were separating. I'd just love to know what went on there, but I'm sure it's destined to be one of the great mysteries of life for me.
 
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Agree....it's just a variation of "it's me, not you"....and she picked that one in particular because you really scared her off.
Dropdeadredtx wrote :
she's just using the ex as an excuse.
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No matter what the circumstances, being involved in any way w/ a relationship that ends in a RO is a huge red flag. Even if the other person is largely at fault, just being involved in any way... not a good thing.
 
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You both "agreed" to take things slow plus she was a moody date last saturday. The 'ex' thing is no surprise. You also told me you were both holding hands even though it's early dates. You were both on the rebound.
 
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Another lesson applied.... SteveME nails it again.... WE were both on the rebound, everything else is just a story. This RO crap will stay within from here on out, it's no one business. I took my past and put it in my future... Bad Bonzi........
 
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I've generally agreed with the sentiement that "I'm not over my ex" is just an excuse and in general I agree. However, what if she actually isn't over her ex and they are actually still in communication and perhaps even having a sexual relationship (hence why she wanted to take things slow with Bonzi). A lot of people jump into online dating before they are even done with their previous relationship completely.. I have found over the past year that a number of circumstances have prompted me to stop dating someone and while the vast majority of the time it is because I'm just not into them there has been a person or two who I look back on and think if I had been in a better place I may have moved forward.
 
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