Shelby is offline Shelby Post #11  February 7,2012, 5:32am
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Was he right?

Were you two going on quality dates, where you had activities and events (movies, meals, museums) or were you aimlessly walking the streets and the mall? Was there any quality in your conversations, or were you only talking about celebrity gossip and sports scores?

Dating in that first month should be a little more exciting, where you want to get to know each other, and that doesn't mean hopping in the sack. Hanging out doesn't sound like he was excited when you were together.

Do you think you had contributed toward making time with him a quality date, versus just hanging out?
 
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SteveManchesterEngland is online now SteveManchesterEngland Post #12  February 7,2012, 6:28am
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I think you should leave it because if you chase after someone who has dumped you, you risk inviting someone back who will use you.

He made his thoughts clear. He should be the one regretting the break-up and begging you for a 2nd chance. Chasing him would look desperate.
 
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Mary7781 is offline Mary7781 Post #13  February 7,2012, 7:09am
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I believe they were "quality" dates. We had fun going out for dinner, drinks, etc, but also shared a lot of intimate stories and were physical.
 
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The bottom line is that he just wasn't attracted to you as unpleasant as that may be to face. Chasing someone who is just not into you is an exercise in futility and a great way to destroy your own self respect.
 
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