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WOW.... I didn't realize that hiding the profile is to show that I am focusing on her! I must have missed the tuna boat on that one, it's not the first time. So tell me
what is, so to say, "wrong" with letting her know that I look forward to seeing her in a text followed up with an evening call? My belief is that shows confidence and taking charge in the face of possible rejection.
 
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bonzi wrote :
WOW.... I didn't realize that hiding the profile is to show that I am focusing on her! I must have missed the tuna boat on that one, it's not the first time. So tell me
what is, so to say, "wrong" with letting her know that I look forward to seeing her in a text followed up with an evening call? My belief is that shows confidence and taking charge in the face of possible rejection.
Yes, apparently some people view hiding profiles as a gesture to show a level of commitment - it's certainly more positive than leaving a profile up!

Regarding texting/phoning - This is where you and I differ. I don't set out to show confidence to "take charge in the face of possible rejection" because rejection is something I don't think about and care little for. Most of the time it's out of your hands unless you act needy or act suffocating. I

I act confident and don't preplan to text someone and then follow up later with a phone call - all that is just stressing you out.

I'd text asking "how are you?" then go with the flow. Maybe if I didn't hear anything for a day then I'd ring her for a chat as texts sometimes get lost in the system.

Otherwise you end up dependent on someone else and you end up looking needy.


Perhaps I'm like this because I've experienced a few women who play games and allowed myself to be played - thus now, I will never get worked up or stressed if someone doesn't respond to me or takes their time to respond. I will only accept people into my life who treat me well and those that don't, I lose interest in..... so back to your new girl, it isn't just about you chasing her, it's also important that she treats you well and what you put in effort/time/chasing etc, is at least partly influenced by how well she treats you.
 
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