harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #31  February 8,2012, 12:38pm
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I think he would be a terrible husband.
 
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Wonderwoman402 is offline Wonderwoman402 Post #32  February 10,2012, 7:52pm
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hiba wrote :
It's reaaaaly hard I can't even think I can get over him
I love him so much
we still have one semseter far from graduation .. we study dentisry .. so I have to be his assistant we he works ,,and he has to be my assistant when I work .. he was such a nice a kind guy when we work together
If we break up then I have to work it all on my own , and live in pain cause I have to see him alot every day
do you think we could work together if we break up?
yesterday he admit it all ..he said they were friends and then she started flirting with him sexually and he couldn't refuse it cause he lived before in a very Conservative society ... and she was the first and only woman who offered sex without him even telling her : I love you
(in our society no woman offer sex before marriage unless she's a bad or a cheap girl )
now he deleted her from facebook .. he said he deleted her before and always tried to get red of her but couldn't .. everytime they talked he felt geulity and cried ..
I could tell from his messages he was trying to escape most of the time: like I have to study now .. I have to sleep .. please I have a strong headache... I have an exam tomorrow (I checked it out and found out he waas lying ... he had no exam in that period )
I reaaly want to give him another chance but don't want to get hurt again

I am planning on working with him this semseter as freinds and not getting engaged now until am sure about it ... what do you think?
I don't think anyone's answer here is going to change from what you wrote, if anything it only confirms what advice you've already been given.

For some reason you're trying to let him off the hook for his actions by blaming the "other woman." She did not force him to have sex with her... for over a year! He did so willingly. He and only he is responsible for his actions. Casting labels on her (bad, cheap) does not change this one little bit. If anything, it should make you question his character even more that he would want to be with a "bad, cheap" woman. And make no mistake about it... he wanted to be with her, or else he would have said no.

She did not cast some evil spell over him. She was a normal woman (albeit outside your "society") wanting to have sex with someone she had a relationship for over a year. That is perfectly normal, and I bet he's hurt her something terrible with this rejection.

Since you're still asking "what do you think?" I'll say again, if you're seriously considering taking him back, you should BOTH seek counseling, either professionally and/or through a leader in your "conservative society." Your trust in him has been broken, and that is difficult (often impossible) to repair.
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He has a relationship with this women and feelings for her...whether you like it or not.
Since he has to work with you he will tell you lies (which by your own statement he does frequently) that you want to hear and make it appear as if she was the seductive culprit.

Keep in mind.... in order to keep both of you going he has to lie to both of you and tell each of you whatever it takes...Good Luck...
hiba wrote :
If we break up then I have to work it all on my own , and live in pain cause I have to see him alot every day
do you think we could work together if we break up?
he said they were friends and then she started flirting with him sexually and he couldn't refuse
he said he deleted her before and always tried to get red of her but couldn't .. everytime they talked he felt geulity and cried ..
I checked it out and found out he was lying ... he had no exam in that period
I am planning on working with him this semseter as freinds and not getting engaged now until am sure about it
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
I think he would be a terrible husband.
(Putting flame suit on) As I think she may be a terrible wife for anyone who implicitly appreciates intimacy (omitting my observatory analysis of personality trait classification ... "be kind to newbies").

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You both deserve each other.
 
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I do not even understand half of the things you are saying. How about focus on school and move on from this boy. Grammar, punctuation and correct spelling is more important in life then this guy.
 
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Immerito is offline Immerito Post #37  February 14,2012, 9:50pm
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Dump your boyfriend.

Get a new partner for your school project.
 
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People who plan on being married one day prepare themselves for one of three outcomes while they are dating. They will take on one of three identities:

A good husband/wife
A bad husband/wife
An adulterer

Those who will make good husbands/good wives have good character, exhibit it consistently through their dating experiences, work to improve their communication skills with their partner, and show mutual respect and appreciation for their partner.

Those who will make bad husbands/bad wives do not have good character, have poor communication skills (and are unwilling to improve them) and show by their words and actions that they do not respect their partner. They enable their partner's bad behavior and make excuses for it, when it manifests itself.

Your boyfriend is NOT doing these things by cheating and lying about it--to you and to her.

Instead, he is preparing himself to be an adulterer. Unless he CHOOSES to change his path, he will not change.

I am sure there are other young men in your society who are actively preparing to be good husbands. Break off your relationship with this young man so that you will be available (when you heal) to date a Good Man.
 
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