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SteveManchesterEngland is online now SteveManchesterEngland Post #21  February 2,2012, 3:02pm
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harnomygirl wrote :
You can board a dog who needs meds with a veterinary office. Many offer boarding and they'll make sure prescriptions are filled and used properly.

He might not like the idea of leaving his dog in a kennel and that would make any LDR difficult.
All the dogs I've had the pleasure of owning managed to travel in my car or stay in kennels. They were both on medication.

At no point did I refuse to travel or date based on the risk of my dog dying. This is the most hilarious excuse ever.
 
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I'm laughing here at the fact that some people on this thread think there's a dog out there that's going to die if a man ventures out of his house on a date.

This thread is laughable.
Actually I believe that he has a dog that may be sick...but I also think he is using it as an excuse to not have to pay for anything or travel by plane/car so that he gets women to come to him....It seems too strange of an excuse to be fake that would easily be found out, especially as he asked her to stay with him...

I suggested that the OP have a few more phone conversations before she books any flights or hotel so that she can casually ask about the dog, how he handles work during the day, and if she visits, does this mean they have to spend their time at the house...

As well as talking about the finances of the trip as mentioned, his "offer" of her staying at the house is not very valid and does not null and void his share of financial responsibility for her trip. It should at least be split down the line between them.
 
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I think it's time GRLoutdoor came back and gave us an update.
 
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SteveManchesterEngland wrote :
I'm laughing here at the fact that some people on this thread think there's a dog out there that's going to die if a man ventures out of his house on a date.
You're either being even more facetious than normal or you haven't read the thread very well.
 
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It is really up to you - if you think he is worthy of the trip and pay the cost, go for it. I have been in a few long distance relationships but they always made the first visits and paid the costs just because I was not ready to make the investment in them yet. If I met someone who I thought aboslutely fabulous, felt amazing connection, and fully agreed that my travel made more sense, I would have beem gladly made the trip.
 
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This is a good solution...make it a trip to visit some friends and meet him in the process.

As long as you cover your own expenses for this and do not obligate yourself by accepting his "hospitality" (never a good idea) it will just be a trip for yourself that includes meeting this match.

The dog issues are his business and irrelevant to your travel plans.....Good Luck..
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"I should pay and make it a little vacation for me beyond meeting him." So, I will meet him and then drive down to visit a cousin a couple of hours south and then travel head over to visit an old co-worker who lives in the state as well.
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
You can board a dog who needs meds with a veterinary office. Many offer boarding and they'll make sure prescriptions are filled and used properly.

He might not like the idea of leaving his dog in a kennel and that would make any LDR difficult.

Yeah and a kennel with onsite veterinary services should only run him a few hundred bucks. Soooo worth it for a first date.
 
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I've met a man on eHarmony who wants me to travel to him for the first meeting. He has a dog that needs multiple insulin shots a day. I've clarified that I would be staying in a hotel after thanking him for his offer for me to stay at his home. I'm curious though... who pays for the travel expenses? I'm used to being taken out while being courted and I am really new to long distance dating. This will be the first meeting I will be making. I'm also curious if other women have traveled to the man. Another man who I stopped communicating with before real talk of travel happened had also asked me to travel to him because he is a single parent in full custody. I'm a little surprised...
The OP seems to have discovered that men with children or sick dogs expect women to travel to them.

I would think that if most men have also discovered that women with those responsibilities do the same thing then it's the accepted method of long distance dating.

I have no idea if it is or not.
 
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