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Is it necessary to post a picture to be successful on a dating site? I'm afraid some of my co-workers will find out that I'm on a dating site. (Especially Karl from accounts payable. He's a jerk) Is it necessary?
Yes. Try letting the scenario play out in your head: What's the worst possible thing that could happen? Is it really SO bad that it's worth shooting yourself in the foot in your search for a partner?
 
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You won't be matched with Karl ...and with no photo..you won't have much luck.
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Is it necessary to post a picture to be successful on a dating site? I'm afraid some of my co-workers will find out that I'm on a dating site. (Especially Karl from accounts payable. He's a jerk) Is it necessary?
 
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Yes. It particularly galls me when men have in their profile that they care about appearance, but then don't have photos. If you're willing to talk with women who have no photos, maybe that's fine.

I have real issues in my profession with having photos up and I still do. But only on EH, I don't use searchable sites. If you match with a co-worker- who cares? Both of you are in the same boat. It's not like Match of OKC or POF, where clients, neighbors and evil coworkers like Karl can just spend a dull evening looking online for people of both genders they know to laugh at their profiles.
 
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Your personality shines like a rainbow so I wouldn't worry about it too much.
Thank you, my friend. You are a gentleman and a scholar.
 
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Do you require photos to initiate with women? I don't really care if men have photos up, it's the profile that interests me, I'd really like it if nobody was allowed to have photos up. But for those that base their future relationships on looks then pics are necessary. Even though few people actually look a whole lot like their pics. Odd little world.
 
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Do you require photos to initiate with women? I don't really care if men have photos up, it's the profile that interests me, I'd really like it if nobody was allowed to have photos up. But for those that base their future relationships on looks then pics are necessary. Even though few people actually look a whole lot like their pics. Odd little world.
I initiate with all women, regardless of whether they have photos up or not.
 
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yeah who cares about the stigma? Like meeting someone online is any less valid than meeting someone at a bar? I'd much rather tell people I met my girl online than at a bar.

And yeah you need a picture.. I've never done anything other than close a match without a pic. It's really kind of surprising that this is a serious question. Seems like common sense to me.
 
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It depends on your definition of "need". No, you don't need a picture up. You will get closed by ladies that won't respond to people without pictures. But there is no technical reason ladies can't respond, so there is a chance you will get a response from someone who doesn't care about pictures.

Are you already overwhelmed with responses?

On another website there is a lady venturing off into the dating world on a searchable site that doesn't put her picture up, but won't talk to anyone that doesn't put his picture up. So it's not necessarily the ladies without pictures that will respond. (And amazingly, she was successful. You never know.)
 
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I think if Karl is one of your matches you have something else to worry about, unless you've decided to switch teams or double your odds.
Seriously.

If Karl finds your profile and says something about it, loudly ask why it was he's searching mens' profiles on a dating site.

Not that there's anything wrong with it, of course, but he's clearly not your type.
 
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Actually, my last note sounded like I close men with no photos. Theoretically I think people should put them up. But actually - I always leave no photo profiles active for a few days to a week if I think they're OK, and the profiles I really like I leave them up longer in my archive and I would definitely respond to questions. But I usually wouldn't initiate.
 
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