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A while back one of my friends had a pretty big crush on me, but since I never wanted to risk the friendship nothing ever happened. I recently asked her out though since I realized I actually had strong feelings for her and wanted to take the chance, but she said she no longer had the same feelings she used to and that she kinda liked someone else. But since then we have been talking tons and she has been texting me almost constantly ( way more than she used to). At this point I feel more confused than ever and my question is if i should just try and move on or if there still is a chance.
 
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It doesn't hurt to ask one more time to be sure. Worst that can happen is she'll still say no and that way you'll know for sure where you stand and that you need to move on. There is really no point in sitting and agonizing over this when it can be so easily solved by simple communication.
 
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How are the texts ? Any flirtation or hints of certain kind ? How is she in real life ? Is she touching you now more than she used to in the arm etc ?

DF's advice is good, asking one more time will not hurt anything.
 
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More importantly about those texts...is she asking your advice about the guy she is interested in or even mentioning him? If she is talking about the guy she likes, she has friend zoned you. If not, then she may be interested still.
 
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David8 wrote :
A while back one of my friends had a pretty big crush on me, but since I never wanted to risk the friendship nothing ever happened. I recently asked her out though since I realized I actually had strong feelings for her and wanted to take the chance, but she said she no longer had the same feelings she used to and that she kinda liked someone else. But since then we have been talking tons and she has been texting me almost constantly ( way more than she used to). At this point I feel more confused than ever and my question is if i should just try and move on or if there still is a chance.
If she was a friend to start with, than it seems like that is what she is doing now by texting you....

Since you recently asked her out on a date and she declined saying that she doesn't feel the same way I don't see it being a possibility.

The only way a true and healthy friendship can work between a man and a woman is if neither has romantic feelings towards each other. This is because real friends share their dating stories....hearing that that they are falling in love with someone else....and a friend would be happy for them and cheer them on.

If you need to take some time and settle your own emotions towards her to be able to do that...this is good. If you don't think you can do this...than you need to tell her this and let her go.

Just make sure she isn't the type to want the "attention" from you as in paying for meals or movies and being there at the drop of a hat to help her but keep you hanging about how she feels.

Good luck..
 
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David8 wrote :
A while back one of my friends had a pretty big crush on me, but since I never wanted to risk the friendship nothing ever happened. I recently asked her out though since I realized I actually had strong feelings for her and wanted to take the chance, but she said she no longer had the same feelings she used to and that she kinda liked someone else. But since then we have been talking tons and she has been texting me almost constantly ( way more than she used to). At this point I feel more confused than ever and my question is if i should just try and move on or if there still is a chance.
Perhaps you should ask her out on a date. Again.

Let her know that you don't do the friendzone thing.
 
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