nire is offline nire Post #1  January 29,2012, 7:28pm
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I met a guy on eH and we seem to really connect. We've communicated a ton and have a lot in common and similar interested and views. We are planning to arrange a date but the problem is, we live two hours away from each other. With this being a possible new relationship does it make sense to start? I'm the type that likes to do things on the weekend and hang out at home together during the week. I'm just worried that I'll really like the guy but not have the relationship I think I want. I also feel that long distance, when it does work, has to have a local foundation. The bright side is the distance can definitely help me with my clingy tendencies. Moral of the story, is it worth it to pursue a relationship separated by two hours?
 
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If either of you were able to relocate in the future...it would be worth starting the relationship. If you are both tied down due to jobs or young kids I wouldn't start a long distance relationship - you're asking for heartbreak.
 
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I agree with Suzyque. Unless there is the possibility for either of you moving, I wouldn't do it.

My boyfriend lives 2 1/2 hours away and I hate it! It was all fine in the beginning because he was coming to my city every weekend but now that football season is over for his kids (that also live in my city), he doesn't come down much anymore. We pretty much only see one another when I have to head up his way to drop off my son which his father or when we specifically make plans to do something together. Right now our focus is to pay off debt and he is looking for a job in my town so he can hopefully move here soon.

It's rough though. Like you, I would love to just chill during the week with him or even just go to the gym with him after his work day but it's not possible.

The one benefit, like you mentioned, is that it does help reduce the chances of being a clingy girlfriend.
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Two hours is a deterrent for the constant hanging out you need. However this is dating, not instant joined at the hip relationship-replacement. Two hours could work for motivated people who enjoy weekends together, but not for an insta-relationship with constant togetherness....Good Luck.
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jov27 is offline jov27 Post #5  January 30,2012, 4:42am
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I'm pretty picky I guess - it's hard for me to find someone I really really want to be in a relationship with, so I'm pretty open to long distance things. In fact, my ex husband and I were long distance for several years until we got engaged. Two hours isn't bad. I would need an every other weekend on average I think. But I have to say, I would love to have someone close by. I've had very few EH matches close by and all of my actual meetings have been with people at 1 to 3 hours away.
 
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