myusernamehere is offline myusernamehere Post #1  January 27,2012, 11:14am
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What about your other thread you just started on this same topic?

All the suggestions will be the same....Anger and bitterness towards women will not help you relate at all...

Until you work on the common denominator...you.....the same results will happen over and over again.

As I said, in the years that you have been here....I can't think of a positive post that you have written nor have you ever tried to help others with their issues...It has always come back to how awful you get treated by women..

Counseling would be extremely beneficial to you so that you can start to learn how to relate to others and take the focus off yourself all the time.

Complaining and saying that the world is against you or all women are meanies is not going to bring others that want to be around you.

I'm sure you will think I am a meany just by this post but if you are asking on how to relate to women....this is where I think you need to start....Working on yourself first.
 
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I agree, your posts are depressing. You need to change your outlook and that's not always easy to do. Counseling is probably worth a shot.
 
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Half the world is women..... you are related to them, went to school with them, work with them, see them everyday.
They are not aliens from another planet who do no speak "earth" or have never seen a human male before.
Just act normal, smile ,say hi...relax....it's that simple...Good Luck
 
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Relax ... take a deep breath ....

If I can relate to them, so can you ...it is all in your mind.

Counseling might help, you got good advice already ... You should follow up on that. You can't change the outcome if you keep doing what you have been doing as long as you remember.

For some of us, that is what counselors are for, for some of us it is our friends, some of us manage to do it themselves. Just choose which path might work for you. You need to change something, only you can decide if you will, and what. For everyone it is different.

The difficult part is actually over once you decide that you need to do something. You do not realize it yet, but one day you will look back and agree with me.

Just start acting on the advice you received.
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Start by relating to people at large.
 
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Freud: they one thing I will never understand-women

Stop trying, just do (aka be yourself and you will find someone)
 
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I think the best place to start is by asking yourself: "why do you want to relate to women?" What do you hope a relationship will add to your life and what do you have to offer?

Some people are nicely suited to staying single. If the idea of relating to women is so daunting, how is it really worth it? I have to agree with some of the above comments, that you don't really seem to see any positive benefits to establishing a relationship. So, then, what is the motivating factor?
 
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The other thing that needs to be said is that you should toss the books by that guy you frequently quote (David D'Angelo?? I don't remember his name.) I will admit to never having read him, but the stuff you quote from him is very weird to me & I cannot imagine it being the basis for any sort of healthy relationship.

Remember this - while there are some differences in the genders & how we approach relationships, we are all human beings first & tend to want much the same things. Stuff like - to be heard, to be appreciated, to be able to give & receive affection & trust, to be treated with kindness & respect. A lot of it just goes back to the golden rule.
 
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