Chirpy is offline Chirpy Post #1  January 26,2012, 2:39pm
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I had a first date with a guy a couple of weeks ago. We'd been chatting on line for about a month. At the end of the date he gave me a huge hug, a kiss on the cheek and then said "don't be a stranger". I thought this was a brush off but then my girlfriend said she'd heard of a celebrity (think JFK Jr.) who had said the same thing and his date challenged him and they ended up married This guy is really shy so I sent him a text and he immediately responded. We had a few texts back and forth and then I stopped and nothing since?

Then last night I had a date with a guy who I could tell was very interested in me. He took my number at the end of the date...called me (think to check I'd given him the right number) and then sent me an email later that evening...saying "don't be a stranger, unless you want to be!" What the heck does this mean? If somebody is interested, wouldn't they ask for another date?

Any advice is much appreciated!
 
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I have no advice unfortunately, but I will be reading to see what that means., It sounds like a very passive way to let someone know that you are interested.
 
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I don't know your age , but here in Texas the young men say that, it means * I enjoyed your company, lets do this again, but they are leaving it up to you to ask for the next date.
So text date #1 and ask him out, see what his response is.
In their minds *don't be a stranger means exactly that a stranger is some one who they never get to know, or is never around..
P.S. I asked my 27 year-old son what it meant......his last words were *trust me Mom LOL
 
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Wow...dahlimema! Thank your son. I just text #1 and he responded immediately! Looks like I have a date with him tomorrow night. Still don't really get it In any case, I'm 57 and he's quite a bit younger!
 
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Very happy for you !!! I hope it will be a great date ! Let us know if there are more scheduled

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Wow...dahlimema! Thank your son. I just text #1 and he responded immediately! Looks like I have a date with him tomorrow night. Still don't really get it In any case, I'm 57 and he's quite a bit younger!
 
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The one time a man said this to me I never heard from him again. Meh, whatever. I prefer a man to call and ask me out for the first official date. I'm too old to change now.
 
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Depending on where you are the kind of guy he is, it means: "I had a good time and if you did too, stay in touch because I want to see you again"
 
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Chirpy wrote :
Wow...dahlimema! Thank your son. I just text #1 and he responded immediately! Looks like I have a date with him tomorrow night. Still don't really get it In any case, I'm 57 and he's quite a bit younger!
I don't get it either and I am old school, although I did have to push the envelope to get my MOTOS to ask me out
I think men liked to be asked out too!
 
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