suzannep is offline suzannep Post #1  January 25,2012, 6:28pm
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I met a guy from a single site and we went on one date in late October. He called once and we texted a few times but he didn't seem interested. I told him I was interested and he said he was too but he didnt contact me again.
At Christmas he sent me a text and I didn't know who it was from. He told me his first name and I asked if Bob had a last name. He then explained who he was. We messaged about our families and nothing else. He then sends me a text about new years eve and I had other plans which I inadvertently sent to him by mistake. My text was to another man I was planning on meeting at a dance. When Bob got that text, he responded maybe we should go out on another date. My response was, maybe we should.
He invited me to go hiking by his house. We went hiking and had a great time. I was a lot less nervous and more talkative because I didn't care if he was interested or not. He invited me into his house after but I went straight home.
He then waited a week and texted me one hour before I got off of work about hiking and seeing a movie that day. I told him I couldn't make it.
I sent him a text about hiking during the week and he said he was interested and we would cook dinner. We did hike and cook dinner. We watched a movie and he wanted me to stay and watch 2 other movies. He kicked back in his lazyboy and I was laying on the couch while we watched the movie. I told him I was too tired to watch another movie and had to go home. I gave him a hug goodnight. I texted him and told him I had a lot of fun and he responded saying he did too but that I forgot my pizza cutter. I responded with ,"Maybe you'll invite me to watch a movie on his fantastic tv and that I would pick it up then". He hasn't responded.
I should add we are able to travel due to the company we work for but we have different days off. I went to Portland to see my niece and he wanted to go but we didn't have the same days off nor did I officially invite him.
He hasn't tried to kiss me or hold my hand. I'm getting mixed signals and don't know what to do.
 
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RockyRaccoon83 is offline RockyRaccoon83 Post #2  January 26,2012, 12:01am
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Seems like he's not certain himself, either that or totally awful at dating. You've done what you can and at this point, the ball is in his court. If he chooses not to pick it up and play, you can hardly blame yourself for that.
 
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BikerBeagle is offline BikerBeagle Post #3  January 26,2012, 3:03am
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thinks everyone should just ask themselves, WWBBD?

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I'm going to take a new approach and not give a direct response (no one seems to listen to those anyways), but because I'm such a nice guy, I'll give you a hint - the answer will have the word "convenient" in it.
 
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There is a lot of texting, and hanging out..that sums it up..no mixed messages except texting the wrong guy. Perhaps get on a dating site , communicate clearly with the right guys and set up real dates with someone interested in more than texting and hanging out?...Good Luck..
 
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No mixed messages here. He is just not that into but has nothing better to do at the moment. You need to seek out men who are interested in dating you and actively pursue that.
 
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Agree with others...this man does not seem romantically interested at all. No one invites someone to come to their home and then jumps in the lazyboy by themselves. That says it all!

I certainly wouldn't be wasting my time hanging out as friends when you could be out dating men who want to kiss you!!!!
 
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If you have to ask....

If you want to know for sure, get busy living your life as though it matters rather than always being available to hang out with him. If he's interested he'll get off his bottom and have a conversation about it (don't hold you breath on this, based on what you've said). If he's not, he'll either get annoyed and possibly pouty that you're no longer convenient-girl (please don't mistake this for interest) or he'll just go away.
 
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Lorrayne is offline Lorrayne Post #8  January 29,2012, 12:11pm
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BikerBeagle wrote :
I'm going to take a new approach and not give a direct response (no one seems to listen to those anyways), but because I'm such a nice guy, I'll give you a hint - the answer will have the word "convenient" in it.

What he said! ^^^
 
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