Advice sought

I totally would have read your post if you used paragraphs.

1) How do I deal with all that stuff in the past that's so incredibly the polar opposite of my views on physical intimacy? The majority of the time, probably 90% of it, I couldn't care less about the past whenever I am with her because I don't believe it's fair to hold the past against someone, especially in a relationship. However, the times I do think of it or it's mentioned, I can't help but see the very crude images in my head again.

Then you should only date virgin ice princesses because by her age most girls already have a past that bothers you.

2) Is there any way to really know, aside from flat-out asking her, if these are things she'd be interested in doing again?

You could try mind reading.

There are a lot of things I've seen her permanently bury in the past, and ideally, taking part in raunchy stuff like this would be one of them.

So what's the problem then?

Do I just have to sit down and talk to her about both of these issues and ask her to help me through them?

As opposed to texting?

Anyone who's been anywhere close to my shoes knows all the thoughts running around in my head, so please feel free to add anything that you feel would help. Thanks, everyone.

The quick response I get is "It's all about context", and the intention of those "involved". This is really the only argument which is presented and is relatively easy to dismiss. One way to deconstruct this argument is to use a little logic tool called a syllogism. A syllogism is taking two premises and drawing a conclusion based on those premises. It sort of looks like this: "All A is C; all B is A; therefore all B is C."

So, Do actors engage in sexual behaviour on screen with their fellow actors?

A--Actors engage in this type of behaviour on stage or in front of a camera: french kissing, erotic touching, intercourse, fellatio, sustained lip kissing, gyrating crotches together etc.

B French kissing, erotic touching, intercourse, fellatio, sustained lip kissing, gyrating crotches together etc.

Constitutes sexual behaviour.

C Therefore actors engage in sexual behaviour.

Simple easy logic.

This type of syllogistic logic precludes motivation and context. Simply because these behaviours universally constitute sexual behaviour.

This same logic cannot be applied when playing the role of murderer who stabs his victims simply because the actor is not "actually" stabbing his colleagues.

There were things in her past she wasn't proud of as far as her relationships/romance/sexual history went, but has expressed a desire to put them behind her as she's returning to being more religious and I have seen it in action already (it was part of my reason for holding off on courting her for such a long time, even when she seemed perfect for me in just about every other way).

1) How do I deal with all that stuff in the past that's so incredibly the polar opposite of my views on physical intimacy? The majority of the time, probably 90% of it, I couldn't care less about the past whenever I am with her because I don't believe it's fair to hold the past against someone, especially in a relationship. However, the times I do think of it or it's mentioned, I can't help but see the very crude images in my head again.

2) Is there any way to really know, aside from flat-out asking her, if these are things she'd be interested in doing again? There are a lot of things I've seen her permanently bury in the past, and ideally, taking part in raunchy stuff like this would be one of them. Do I just have to sit down and talk to her about both of these issues and ask her to help me through them?

I have found that I care about this girl enough to get over a lot of things that used to "disqualify" women for me, so to speak, including simply having this kind of a past.

I truly want to work through these issues with her (that's why I'm here trying to figure out how) and move beyond the past, but I'm just not at all sure how to even begin doing that/starting the necessary conversation without setting a negative tone. I'd love to hear that she's not interested in doing anything of this sort anymore, but even if she is, I am just trying to figure out how to work through it with her.