Gaviota31 is offline Gaviota31 Post #1  January 24,2012, 1:04pm
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I was supposed to meet a guy this past Sunday, he lives an hour away from me, so we agreed to meet half way for both,

We have been in contact through e harmony since mid December and talked about meeting since mid Jan, but our schedules didn't work till now.

He called me about an hour before our meeting, (I missed his call because I didn't hear my phone so he left a voicemail saying "I am very sorry, I hope you get this message before you leave home, but I have some vehicle problems and won't be able to make it to our meeting, I will try to call you later tonight")

Needless to say I got to our rendezvous place checked my phone and went back home, disappointed.

He didn't call me that night, instead I received an email around 8pm saying that he just have gotten home and he hoped I got his message in time, that was it.

"I replied to his email saying, no worries, I did receive for message, unfortunately too late :-( ... its all good, I hope you got your vehicle back"

It is Tuesday and I haven't heard from him yet...

Should I contact him?
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #2  January 24,2012, 2:02pm
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Do what lets you sleep at night. If sending him an e-mail asking if he still wants to meet would make you feel better then just do it. If not, then don't do it. Best case scenario is he'll be happy to hear from you and reschedule the date. The worst is not that he ignores your e-mail and you get confirmation that he bailed, the worst is looking back and wondering what if.
 
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Unless you talked every day then I wouldn't get too riled up over not hearing from him yet.On the upside he did call prior to your meeting. It may have been just an hour ahead of time,but a lot of flakes simply vanish without a word. He also did email you that night. Perhaps, he could've suggested an alternate meetup sometime, but like you said your schedules don't seem to match up easily. If it were me and it was a match I'd enjoyed talking to so far and seemed to have common interests/etc I'd give her a second chance. In your case I agree with DancingFool's advice and do what makes you feel better.
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Gaviota31 wrote :
I was supposed to meet a guy this past Sunday, he lives an hour away from me, so we agreed to meet half way for both,

We have been in contact through e harmony since mid December and talked about meeting since mid Jan, but our schedules didn't work till now.

He called me about an hour before our meeting, (I missed his call because I didn't hear my phone so he left a voicemail saying "I am very sorry, I hope you get this message before you leave home, but I have some vehicle problems and won't be able to make it to our meeting, I will try to call you later tonight")

Needless to say I got to our render vows place checked my phone and went back home, disappointed.

He didn't call me that night, instead I received an email around 8pm saying that he just have gotten home and he hoped I got his message in time, that was it.

"I replied to his email saying, no worries, I did receive for message, unfortunately too late :-( ... its all good, I hope you got your vehicle back"

It is Tuesday and I haven't heard from him yet...

Should I contact him?
Not that this particular story can't be true some times....things happen...But there are glaring red flags on this one that makes me think he is full of it and giving a lame excuse as he doesn't really want to meet...

The red flags are the 'try' to call that night..Why the try? It's pretty easy to pick up the phone and call you and immediately reschedule the date...It's his car he says is broken..not his phone...

Then he totally wimps out (again...guilt is getting to him and he doesn't want to be questioned and have to lie on the phone) so he ends up emailing you....

So...why would he not call like he said?..Those are all red flags that make me 99.9% sure that he is lying...

I'm sorry...but this one I would wish him well but would not try to get together again..

Only being a half an hour from meeting half way shouldn't take weeks and weeks to get to a first date.

Find someone else who is truly excited about meeting you!
 
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barbarella_42 is offline barbarella_42 Post #5  January 24,2012, 2:16pm
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I need to get my eyes checked. When I first looked at the post title, that F looked like a P.
 
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barbarella_42 is offline barbarella_42 Post #6  January 24,2012, 2:30pm
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OK, in all seriousness:

This guy's not really breaking a sweat to set up another date. Unfortunately, I think you can read between the lines on that one. I'd let this one go and move on.
 
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he emailed instead of phoning and he came up with an excuse but didn't come back with an alternative plan. most likely a liar.
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #9  January 24,2012, 4:40pm
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You have been poofed on...no sweat because you haven't invested too much time in this man...

Keep it moving...you'll be okay....it happens to the best of us
 
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Gaviota31 is offline Gaviota31 Post #10  January 24,2012, 6:03pm
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legend29 wrote :
You have been poofed on...no sweat because you haven't invested too much time in this man...

Keep it moving...you'll be okay....it happens to the best of us
Thanks legend,

It upsets me though as I wasted time communicated with him for over a month...argggghhh
 
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